I've been with someone like that for several years. Frankly, I think you have to have a little bit of madness to keep it that way over time. Often, people like that have been hurt.
Oohh tell us about that last part
Hmm, I'm not going to go into details, but I have the impression that people obsessed with their other half like that have had attachment issues in their lives. Whether it was as a child or not. The fear of being abandoned is so strong that they become... well, like that. Anyway, I've been trying to reassure them as best I can for a long time, but they don't change much. I must be weird too since it doesn't bother me that much. But you have to put up with it, the thing about calling them XXX times a day is true.
Sometimes I feel like it's not love anymore, it's possessiveness. You have to make yourself heard and show that you're not an object to be possessed, but a person with feelings and desires. I'm lucky, mine has never, ever been violent towards me. But it can happen with this kind of person. Afterwards, there are good sides. I know that whatever happens, I will be his number one priority, it's pretty incredible. Especially after so long.
Honestly it's my dream to have a bf that's very clingy and attentive and OBSESSED