PREACH I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU
And thats exactly why Ian should leave Jo alone til he knows for sure what he wants/desire/deserved and all those feelings should be directed to one person only, TJ or Jo. Going back and forth between 2 ppl in the end makes you the selfish one. Idealy to be in a healthy relationship u should be feeling happy and content with ursel and by yourself. I have zero expectation when it comes to Ian and I hate love triangle LOL.
Ian leaving Jo alone right now but will Jo leaves Ian alone. .....And everything OP just said falls on deaf ears
The man is the one going to Ian but people will find any reason to blame Ian. I’m crying
I hope Jo doesnt die and im hoping for him to let go too. "If u truly love someone u let them go, love is selfless no possessive". Ian can stay with TJ in this toxic ++ relationship and Jo could find someone only devoted to him.
And that shit not gonna happen bro(╯ ╥Д ╥)╯╧╧ watch him pull up with a glock about to go war for Ian.
Ian catching strays for everything he do and didn't do...
I agree with literally everything you said. Everytime I read comments on every new chapter it feels like I’m reading from a different BL. This is one of the most complex BLs I’ve read in a while and I will defend Ian to the death. Idk why people think Ian can just drop someone he’s known almost half his life and has trauma bonded through a lot. I’m really excited to see how the rest of the story plays out.
the smartest and wisest comment on here omg
As someone who usually like black/red flag, I also can analyze fiction too of course, and I'm leaning to Jo. I mean, I hope that the title is explanatory, wet sand is the embodiment of Ian's trauma, something unstable and only after he leave that "wet sand" he could finally be free. The dark/bad ending would be him keep standing on that wet sand
Love you for this
THISSSSS. your comment should be pinned ngl
Thank you for reply in this manner because it further proves my point
Yes! I've always liked the idea of the title being an allegory for Ian's position, either being able to get pulled out of the quicksand of his past actions and relationships, or remaining stuck, and eventually sinking. Really hoping that Ian can come out of it and leave it all behind with Jo. Fingers crossed
Omg say it louder!! One of the best comments I have read so far
Gonna be real, some of yall have the reading comprehension of a baked bean. Not trying to be mean (sorta), I just think yall lack the depth and maturity to understand Ian without calling him a whore or mischaracterizing him altogether. Once yall live long enough to be in relationships and experience some real shit, then you'll be able to understand him better. Ian is not a whore, hes a former gang member/drug addict trying to find peace in his life but is trapped by his love for someone who is still deep in the very life he wants to leave behind. TJ and Ian love each other, but their biggest bond is through their trauma, some of which TJ catalyzed btw. Ian found someone who not only loves him, but also gives him the peace he so desperately wants, Jo. "Why doesn't he stay with Jo and stop two-timing Jo and TJ then?" you might be asking. It's because he is battling with what he wants vs what he thinks he deserves.
Jo represents what Ian desires in life: peace, love thats out in the open, safety, and normalcy. TJ represents what Ian thinks he deserves: stagnation and settlement to atone for his past sins. TJ literally hired people to beat Ian up to prevent him from leaving, tried tying him down with debt to have him stay longer, said Jo having a normal life would scare Ian away and that he was the only one who knew how to tame him... TJ is an abusive partner and has beaten Ian down into thinking that he is the only one he can go to for comfort and the only person he deserves. In this very chapter (81) Ian is saying "I'm the worst" about himself and how someone like him would just end up hurting Jo, he feels defeated. And who does Ian go to every time he feels like he is undeserving of a better life? TJ. The same person who has kept him in the same place, only loving him behind closed doors, for all these years. TJ serves as a reminder to Ian that he is "bad" and "selfish" and isn't deserving of the life he wants/desires, and TJ preys on that insecurity to keep him as his DL lover. Not to mention, everything with Jamie practically forced Ian to leave Jo in the first place! Ian wanted to go back to Jo, but his past life still haunts him and he doesn't want to put Jo or Jo's family in danger because of it.
Ian isn't a whore for not being able to choose between TJ and Jo, he is complex and in a difficult position by having to chose between love that would set him free (Jo) and love that he's trauma bonded with and has found comfort in (TJ). I can only hope that the author is brave enough to actually make Ian move on from TJ, but then again, BL writers love to keep the MCs with their abusive partner and give them a redemption because they had that planned from the start, and we're just along for the ride. Who knows if the next chapter will lay the seeds for making Ian and TJ endgame or breaking them up, I truly hope it's the ladder because I love TJ, but he doesn't deserve Ian and Jo is really good for him. But they again, these decisions are left up to the author.