i was reading the backstory like "i really don't care but okay"

Exactly. I can understand why you have a bad attitude. But does that mean it excuses the bad attitude? There are plenty of times I could have chosen to be a dick because my home life was shit, but instead, I kept to myself. Or I went out of my way not to ruin the mood.

I just knew I was not trying to be the source of someone's suffering.

YEAH EXACTLY!! i hate this trend of justifying everything with a little backstory