but God I hate the “he had a hard past so his actions make sense” troupe. That’s like saying every child who came from an abusive home and managed to grow up a good person is obsolete. I get it, his past sucked, but this man DECIDED to be an asshole anyway. If anything, a top who isn’t a dîck DESPITE his bad childhood is WAY more attractive than an abusive one.
but God I hate the “he had a hard past so his actions make sense” troupe. That’s like saying every child who came from an abusive home and managed to grow up a good person is obsolete. I get it, his past sucked, but this man DECIDED to be an asshole anyway. If anything, a top who isn’t a dîck DESPITE his bad childhood is WAY more attractive than an abusive one.