i actually really like this story but you're so right, this is just one of those stories where the fl's problem is just a driven factor to the romance if that makes sense.
Yea that makes sense in fact it makes way more sense than my essay lol. I think the concept of this story is actually really good and interesting, especially right now when most modern smut is childhood best friends. It could have been done really well but it’s just too unrealistic for my taste.
I... Honestly just read the first part you said. But often, pain in these comics is just a token for cheap drama, it is there just to justify the plot. It's so difficult to have good realistic portray of emotions, and is needed whether it is fantasy or modern depictions of a story.
I would agree If I didn't literally have FL's personality lol I'm realistic so when something bad happens I "accept" it easily and fast, but I avoid actually having to face it for as long as I humanly can, leaving it at the back of my mind. Be it being unemployed and rejected from every job I applied, being in an relationship with no future, feeling depressed and fed up with life, I knew what a shitty situation I was in and somewhow postponed ever thinking about any of them fully, never solving them nor managing them face on until I was completely cornered by them. So if I was told I most probably only had 6 months to live, and with her context of no family nor friends to trust or live for except her grandma, I would be so overwhelmed and empty emotionally I would literally just look to handle the pain, get out of all responsabilities, and waste time doing things I had postponed like doing a tattoo or buying a chocolate fountain thingy.
I literally would've acted like her fr, though I would've never asked a rando to date because I've already experienced dating, she had not so it's normal she would've wanted to and it's also normal for her to be in the honeymoon pase of the first love so she just goes with the flow of whatever her love wants.
I actually also have a similar personality. This summer I applied to so many entry level jobs and I got nothing and yea I didn’t feel anything about it. The difference between you and me is that you are forcing yourself to be at 0 emotional capacity so bad things hurt less. For me, being rejected will subtract from my overall happiness but temporarily. Overall bad things happening doesn’t greatly reduce my overall contentment. That being said I have done a lot of work for myself and I study neuroscience so I have a decent understanding of how the brain works. I’m assuming you don’t but you seem pretty self aware of how you deal with things. I used to be like that and honestly I would recommend you learn about the human brain and how processing even works because you would probably get rejected from regular therapy.
Besides that lol. I think you’re slightly misunderstanding my point. I don’t care about the specific actions she does, it’s the writing or rather lack of writing about WHY. There’s no emotional depth to the story despite the topic being very serious. I don’t deny that you probably would act like the female lead but notice how you’re explaining yourself, you literally explained WHYYY you would do those actions. “I would be so overwhelmed and empty emotionally I would literally just look to handle the pain, get out of all responsabilities, and waste time doing things I had postponed like doing a tattoo or buying a chocolate fountain thingy” like look at your own comment. Even in one sentence I have a better understanding of WHY you would do what you do than the female lead. Thats a part of being human. If you’re a writer talking to an audience you have to balance storytelling from the characters perspective and the perspective from the audience who is outside looking in. In your comment you explaining why from your pov, but you’re also explaining for me (the audience) to better understand.
Yea that’s all sorry for the yap
Okay okay I get you. Yes I agree then.
It's always frustrating since "show don't tell" is ingrained in how we analyse stories, but when comics are being presented with internal dialogue and (may the gods forgive my generalization) romantic dramas are not exactly master of narration, the author should put an effort in literally showing the brain of the MC at the very least. I projected my own thinking instead of letting the comic speak by itself.
I think your generalization is completely correct because especially in the past 10 ish years everything has been very corporatized. If you look at the romantic dramas from like pre 2015 ish they were fucking stupid ass plots but a lot of people look back on them fondly. Now I personally feel like there are some plots and stories that are maximized more for engagement than for art or other reasons. Manhwa, kdrama, cdrama etc industry is so big now but not a lot of people are criticizing them like book reviewers or movie critics.
I don’t fault you for projecting your own thinking because I also did that as well in my original comment. I’m super big on perspective and understanding people’s reason. Literally everyone says this but life is really all about perspective. When covid shut schools down my old highschool district offered completely asynchronous online classes. I did them for 2 years+ the required one year of online during my freshman year. One of the biggest reasons why I stayed online for so long was bec I literally hated the way I looked, I essentially bullied myself before anyone else could. But during those years I def changed my perspective. “I hate the way I look, people are gonna think Im ugly.” Turned into “who cares if im ugly, there’s people prettier than me and uglier, I think I am beautiful.” It took a while for me to actually accept what im saying but I feel even if the whole world called me ugly I wouldn’t feel that way. I’m not perfect, just the other day I was psycho analyzing my face when a school club posted a pic of me on their ig when I wasn’t wearing makeup.
Overall yea perspective really matters.
Guys on a real note I don’t like this. It doesn’t handle the female leads trauma well at all. Maybe I’m too early but you can’t live almost 3 decades under immense religious oppression and pressure and then completely go against that with no introspection. Read that again bc there’s always someone in my replies misunderstanding my criticisms. I’m not saying it’s impossible for her to have a one night stand despite her religious trauma. I’m saying the author is missing a key part of the transition which is that really crucial ***introspection.**** Even if she WASNT raised religiously, being faced with death in 6 months would cause similar complexities. I mean all humans know is life and being told you’re estimated death date knowing you can’t do anything is hard to wrap your head around. Everything about her situation is hard to wrap your head around but the only way it’s acknowledged is in relation to the male lead. Notice how after she met him most of her thoughts are like “we are so opposite” “I have to keep my distance” all the complexities of the plot are boiled down to become really simple. Look at the difference between the female leads internal monologue when she finds out she’s dying vs the male leads internal monologue when he realizes he likes her. There’s a huge difference in the substance and the amount of substance. Male leads complex feelings towards eunsong is so much more detailed than her own feelings about her death. Isn’t that crazy??? She’s dying and the author couldn’t afford her 1 full chapter without a man getting in the way or being involved in her thought processes. Meanwhile he gets so much screentime realizing how toxic he was to his past lovers, realizing how eunsong is playing his games, giving up on her for all of 2 seconds, making out with his ex fiancee to realize he needs to peruse eunsong… eunsong isn’t even the main character to the story about her. It’s all about him him him. He’s selfish and narcissistic but he uses all that bad energy to love on eunsong. When she dies it’s all gonna be about him him him. He’s gonna go back in time, he’s gonna fix her, he’s gonna use all this obsession to fix her life and the female lead is just gonna lie there and take it (literally) Like cmon girl you’re emotionally detached enough to keep repeating the same mantra “we are no strings attached” but does absolutely nothing about it. She says it’s no strings attached but she’s moving like she’s compelled by god to keep this “relationship” healthy. STAND UP GORLLL LIVE YOUR LIVE SLEEP WITH HIS FINE ASS BROTHER, SLEEP WITH HIS BROTHER AND HIS WIFE. SHIEEETT SHE NEEDS TO SLEEP WITH MORE PEOPLE. I’m tired of seeing female leads being second leads to their own stories. I just finished watching the first frost cdrama and while I also have my own qualms about the drama it handled the female leads trauma exceptionally, I can’t accept anything less anymore. Either represent these traumatic situations that happen to people properly or don’t write. I don’t think this is the manhwas problem I’m 99% sure it’s the novels problem but… sigh here we are thx for reading my rant