Or you can just have empathy and understand, it won't take a decade. Some people (uke included) have trauma responses that are so fucked up you just want to punch them. What we can do is understand them (not tolerate or criticize)
yk I've been defending him more than anyone but you can't not hold someone accountable when they've hurt someone. I don't think he's to blame but he needs to be counseled bc he's literally hurting his s/o
if u want proof here:
https://www.mangago.zone/home/mangatopic/19833351/
what I'm essentially saying is that I recognize that he's a victim and that it's not totally his fault but the fact that he's hurting his lover doesn't change which it needs to
That's not what I was trying to say, lmao. I said what I said because you commented "I'm gonna be honest for some people to truly get this story it'd have to be set a 100 years back in time". I'm not defending uke, I'm defending the story.
I think u misunderstood that too. bc people usually don't really think coming out is a big deal anymore bc we have progressed a great deal but what I meant was that if this story's setting was 100 years back and the homophobia, anxiety of coming out and so on would become glaringly obvious, instead of being something you need to be in the situation to understand, then people would take the uke more serious and not hate on him that much. ifykim. I wasn't criticizing the story but the readers for being so narrow minded and not understand the points of the story :]
see this is something I'd actually say is a valid reason to get mad or annoyed over, not the fact that he wanted to stay in the closet. this was genuinely a shitty move even if not on purpose. I'm gonna be honest for some people to truly get this story it'd have to be set a 100 years back in time