So he's not gay?

Something I've always found fascinating about JK is the fact that he's gay. He basically radiates toxic masculinity which often leads to homophobia, and yet he was gay, and that made him ironically special to me.
And now I read this '' men or women doesn't matter ''.bla bla bla (you get what I mean after reading this chapter), and one more fucking time, I feel like I'm faced with this very specific feeling in some yaoi stories: Homosexuality FEELS inferior. If you look at BJ Alex, of course we had the charismatic, attractive, successful, magnetic dude who's bisexual. We have to feel like he has the choice. cause if we can think of him with a woman, than being with a man becomes a choice and not a forced fate, and THAT is important to enhance the aspect of sexual independence the character has, which of course adds to his '' manliness ". He chooses he doesn't subdue. The other one, the one who's gonna play the polar opposite, is gay. He's a bottom, he's weak, he's the invisible one. Or maybe he's fruity and a lil dramatic. In all cases he's the clichee non manly gay dude. I was happy to think that it was possible to write a strong and imposant gay character like JK, but no, from what I understand (and maybe I'm judging too fast) JK is motherfucking bi. This is SO deceiving. It feels like those authors feel like it's a pity to '' sacrifice '' characters with those '' manly '' attributes to just be gay, to them it's like a waste. Gay is for those who don't have much to offer, they're just fragile bottoms. Idk if I got my point clear and definitely I'm being salty cause I'm pissed, but the roles of the gay couples in a lot of yaoi manhwa are painfully non-versatile and heteronormative roles (tops act like men bottoms act as if they have a vagina and no dick at all). This is just boring and close minded. I was really interested in the fact that despite everything Kim Dan was the straight one who was dragged in this journey, and JK being the gay dude perfectly at ease with his sexuality (since he spends his time in that gay bar and seems open about having sex with random men).
I really hope that I'm judging things way too fast. But I feel that if that is the case than I'll need to READ it, that JK founds out he was explicitly interested in men, and not having to brush it off as him just being a sex machine and ends up falling for Kim Dan's magic, which is way too unrealistic.

PS: having sex to forget intrusive thoughts is kinda an accurate move.
-Starting a sex related jinx routine inspired by a hyung who was initially a Bible reader is wild lol