for those hating on his ex, you guys really need to stfu.
you cry and whine that women should have a backbone and know what they want, but when they ACTUALLY do, suddenly it becomes a problem. make it make sense.
1) everyone moves at their own pace in life, true. but that doesn’t mean she’s obligated to wait for him. did she call him an asshole? did she sabotage him? did she abandon him without explanation? no. she simply acknowledged the reality, their timelines were different, and it wasn’t going to work. so, she ended it. that’s maturity.
2. JUST BECAUSE HE'S A GOOD PERSON DOESN'T MEAN HE'S THE RIGHT PERSON.
3. missing the person and the memories you shared is normal, because yes, they did love each other. but love alone isn’t enough if the relationship isn’t sustainable. if your fundamental lifestyles don’t align, it won’t last, no matter how much chemistry you have. it will, in fact, only breed resentment as time passes and the issue continues to be ignored. they did a good job understanding this and ending it early, even.
Imagine this,
you’re a hardworking woman who wakes up early, has a clear vision, goals, and drive. meanwhile, your partner just does the bare minimum, prefers to “go with the flow,” only puts in effort when pushed, and doesn’t have much direction. that doesn’t make him a bad guy, but fundamentally, you’re on different levels.
and she’s ALLOWED to want more, someone just as passionate, driven, and reliable as she is. someone who matches her energy.
this is such a basic concept. what’s disturbing is how one-sided the butchering has been. and honestly? I’m especially disappointed in fellow women for tearing her down instead of understanding her. do better.
for those hating on his ex, you guys really need to stfu.
you cry and whine that women should have a backbone and know what they want, but when they ACTUALLY do, suddenly it becomes a problem. make it make sense.
1) everyone moves at their own pace in life, true. but that doesn’t mean she’s obligated to wait for him. did she call him an asshole? did she sabotage him? did she abandon him without explanation? no. she simply acknowledged the reality, their timelines were different, and it wasn’t going to work. so, she ended it. that’s maturity.
2. JUST BECAUSE HE'S A GOOD PERSON DOESN'T MEAN HE'S THE RIGHT PERSON.
3. missing the person and the memories you shared is normal, because yes, they did love each other. but love alone isn’t enough if the relationship isn’t sustainable. if your fundamental lifestyles don’t align, it won’t last, no matter how much chemistry you have. it will, in fact, only breed resentment as time passes and the issue continues to be ignored. they did a good job understanding this and ending it early, even.
Imagine this,
you’re a hardworking woman who wakes up early, has a clear vision, goals, and drive. meanwhile, your partner just does the bare minimum, prefers to “go with the flow,” only puts in effort when pushed, and doesn’t have much direction. that doesn’t make him a bad guy, but fundamentally, you’re on different levels.
and she’s ALLOWED to want more, someone just as passionate, driven, and reliable as she is. someone who matches her energy.
this is such a basic concept. what’s disturbing is how one-sided the butchering has been. and honestly? I’m especially disappointed in fellow women for tearing her down instead of understanding her. do better.