I grew up in a Latin-African Muslim household so I understand social pressure but as soon as I a legal adult, I grew a fucking spine and when my abusive mother tried to hit me, I grabbed her arm and stopped her. When she hurt me, I left. I didn’t allow her to treat me like shit. My life is my life and my choices are my own too. I even disowned her and I don’t even call her mum anymore. I call her by name when I have to interact with her. I put myself first and that took years of effort on my part and realising that I would the person with a frying pan if they did all the shit my mother did to me. “Old fashioned” isn’t an excuse anymore. You know what we do with older models? Dispose of them for a newer model. You know what we do with outdated information? We make it so everyone is aware it’s false and shouldn’t be trusted. Why not also with stupid thought processes? We got rid of the laws that enabled people to own slaves. We got rid of the idea that the world is flat. We got rid of the idea that infants don’t feel pain and therefore could be operated on without anaesthesia. We got rid of so many harmful and outdated things so why do we put up with this “old fashioned” bs?? Even my father who is 75, born 1950, knows better. It’s not “old fashioned”, it’s misogynistic, racist, sexist, ageist and more. I don’t understand it when grown adults who are clearly over 22 (allowing 4 years of working on yourself) accept such trashy treatment of themselves. It’s the authors fault because realistically, none of this would happen. This is rage bait because the author thinks making it frustrating and infuriating will get people to stay but really it’s pushing people away but it’s still so baffling to me that grown adults are allowing their parents to abuse them while putting up 0 fight. I understand as a child not fighting back but you’re literally the same height or taller and stronger than someone twice or three times your age! Even if you don’t play tit for tat and slap them right back, you can at the very least grab the hand before it hits you or leave after they’ve hit you and limit contact with such a toxic person that they think the best way to communicate is physical or emotional or verbal violence.
This is a PSA: you deserve better than toxicity and abuse. If someone disrespects you or treats you violently once, leave. Don’t let them do it twice because twice becomes thrice and it never ends. Protect yourself. Break the generational trauma. Let it end with their generation not yours.
I grew up in a Latin-African Muslim household so I understand social pressure but as soon as I a legal adult, I grew a fucking spine and when my abusive mother tried to hit me, I grabbed her arm and stopped her. When she hurt me, I left. I didn’t allow her to treat me like shit. My life is my life and my choices are my own too. I even disowned her and I don’t even call her mum anymore. I call her by name when I have to interact with her. I put myself first and that took years of effort on my part and realising that I would the person with a frying pan if they did all the shit my mother did to me. “Old fashioned” isn’t an excuse anymore. You know what we do with older models? Dispose of them for a newer model. You know what we do with outdated information? We make it so everyone is aware it’s false and shouldn’t be trusted. Why not also with stupid thought processes? We got rid of the laws that enabled people to own slaves. We got rid of the idea that the world is flat. We got rid of the idea that infants don’t feel pain and therefore could be operated on without anaesthesia. We got rid of so many harmful and outdated things so why do we put up with this “old fashioned” bs?? Even my father who is 75, born 1950, knows better. It’s not “old fashioned”, it’s misogynistic, racist, sexist, ageist and more. I don’t understand it when grown adults who are clearly over 22 (allowing 4 years of working on yourself) accept such trashy treatment of themselves. It’s the authors fault because realistically, none of this would happen. This is rage bait because the author thinks making it frustrating and infuriating will get people to stay but really it’s pushing people away but it’s still so baffling to me that grown adults are allowing their parents to abuse them while putting up 0 fight. I understand as a child not fighting back but you’re literally the same height or taller and stronger than someone twice or three times your age! Even if you don’t play tit for tat and slap them right back, you can at the very least grab the hand before it hits you or leave after they’ve hit you and limit contact with such a toxic person that they think the best way to communicate is physical or emotional or verbal violence.
This is a PSA: you deserve better than toxicity and abuse. If someone disrespects you or treats you violently once, leave. Don’t let them do it twice because twice becomes thrice and it never ends. Protect yourself. Break the generational trauma. Let it end with their generation not yours.