Literally bro bc like he should already realized what he said was wrong when he’s literally now a high schooler, like sure he said that when he was a kid but omg if that traumatized him that bad he should remember what he said bc for me at that young age I remember the hateful stuff I said and got a slap for it too and so currently I still remember and definitely know I deserved the slap and harbor no hatred towards that person but omg why is he acting like that over a single slap like I feel bad for his SA but his stubbornness and delulu ahh keeps pissing me off when he blames everything on the sister who worked her ass off since middle to high school
You're gonna blame a kid in a dysfunctional household, for getting upset he got hit by probably the only guardian he could rely on?? Obviously he's gonna say hateful shit he learned from the other adults, like his aunt. Was it right? No, but be so fucking for real, the kid's in a dysfunctional home with no one to rely on but his minor sister, how tf is he gonna react right?? Like sorry little bros not the perfect victim tf?
I don't think anyone is blaming him for that one situation. But it wasn't just that one outburst from him towards her, was it? Because that would be understandeable considering the circumstances. But he has been like this continuously for years (before, during, and even after his own abuse took place).
Even after what he experienced, he thinks in a similar way to their disguisting family - that she is someone he can use to vent his frustrations on. He in fact is abusing her, but he gets a pass because he experienced a trauma and is a teen? That's a very interesting way of thinking.
Yes this was what I was talking about and no one’s really blaming him it’s just so weird and honestly really annoying to see how he acts that way towards the sister bc why is he still acting like she’s at fault when it’s been years and he should’ve realized why he was in the wrong and the reason why he’s even acting like that towards her.
The household situation could’ve been worse considering how the sister could easily leave him with the aunt and have his life become hell since the aunt could abuse him and the disgusting cousin would get all over him.
I also assumed where he thought the abuse on the sister was normal caused by the aunt (the scene from their childhood where she slapped the sister and moments later saying he wished she died with their parents as well) and had mentally drain her basically he’s just using her to vent and to get money from not even caring how hard she works for him
He’s just overcomplicating the situation with his mindset and making her turn out as the villain in his life who deserves to be gone and when I say they should talk I meant him, we can see that the sister tries talking to the brother but the brother stubbornly and annoyingly walks away and ignores her bc he has a entire reliable sister and if he had just told her the things he’s going through the sister would listened to him bc she considers him as the only family she considers close and would take action against the cousin but he refuses too.
These are just my overall thoughts I get that they’re in a dysfunctional household but the brother having not grew past over that one incident is just genuinely frustrating.
Who ever said he was getting a pass??? And no duh he thinks similarly to their extended family--when he was more conscious of actions and words that's ALL he learned from, when someone is placed in a prolonged environment which they do not feel safe in to be vulnerable, why wouldn't they be reactive and use the same behavioural tactics????
The kid has no where else to pick up from to understand what is appropriate and why he should be understanding. That said, nothing he says or does is a surprise, if he doesn't trust her he won't make an effort to be nice or understanding or compassionate, she is not someone he sees himself being vulnerable too.
And before you go off on how 'oh so cause he's traumatized his sister needs to keep reaching out'. She isn't obligated to do shit and that's understandable.
But do you think abuse victims are aware of harmful habits to themselves or others when they're still a teenager???? Most adults victims only realize unhealthy patterns of behaviours when they hit their 30s, and that's not considering a lot of outside factors just on when most adults finish developing. He's a reactive kid who doesn't believe he's in a safe space, so ya'll saying he's annoying or is a brat is glazing over the fact as to all the reasons why, but yes it is frustrating. No one said he was good, but why would he be if being hurtful was how he learned to protect himself?? Hence him acting like the aunt.
What I think is interesting is expecting a teenager to fully understand his trauma and react appropriately when he still has a self deprecating ideals and believes to have no safe space! So I guess abuse victims should know better and not be reactive regardless of whatever the hell they're feeling
Her little brother annoys me so much. Dude she slapped you only once, like do you know what all my sisters done to me and im still talking to them. I thought she done something unbelievable like now believing him about being or something but she just slapped u. Like grow up dude...what you are doing is worse like telling your sister that gave up everything for you to die is fucked up dude. His little ungrateful shit.
Don't get me wrong, I feel bad that he can SA and bullied but its not his sister fault