I don't think someone is wrong or right here. The truth is, they are soooooo different, and they might not be right for e/o period. Their way of thinking, their way of handling things, of envisioning things is opposite...I am sorry, but this dialogue was so frustrating to read; it was like they were talking to a wall. They weren't communicating, and it didn't go anywhere. Love is not enough, and the fact that after years of being together, they are still at THAT point shows how difficult it is for them to move forward. They are currently dating without purpose. I get that their situation isn't ideal and it doesn't help, but the fact that they didn't even voice their plans out is alarming. One will always feel scared of losing the other, will always walk on eggshells, will never feel 100% confident in his relationship, will sacrifice himself and the other will always feel somehow pressured, guarded, and will end up going out of his pace, sabotaging himself to make what he thinks will make his lover happy.
I don't think someone is wrong or right here. The truth is, they are soooooo different, and they might not be right for e/o period. Their way of thinking, their way of handling things, of envisioning things is opposite...I am sorry, but this dialogue was so frustrating to read; it was like they were talking to a wall. They weren't communicating, and it didn't go anywhere. Love is not enough, and the fact that after years of being together, they are still at THAT point shows how difficult it is for them to move forward. They are currently dating without purpose. I get that their situation isn't ideal and it doesn't help, but the fact that they didn't even voice their plans out is alarming. One will always feel scared of losing the other, will always walk on eggshells, will never feel 100% confident in his relationship, will sacrifice himself and the other will always feel somehow pressured, guarded, and will end up going out of his pace, sabotaging himself to make what he thinks will make his lover happy.