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Felt the deep need to tell you that I am so proud of you! Working on trauma amd our responses to it is so hard and you are a great person for doing so! <3
Awh thank you so much! I’m proud of you too for whatever hardships you’ve faced and overcome but also for your kindness and bravery to speak up <3 the world needs more people like you!
As someone who grew up in an abusive household, I also had to learn the hard way what was and was not acceptable violence and what is and is not acceptable outputs of rage. Anger management helped me but what seriously helped me was learning that my rage stemmed from fear so instead of treating it as “ah I’m pissed tf off!”, I now treat it as “how can I make myself feel safer?”. For him, he feels like he’s back there with his mother being abused and to save his mother, he would kill and I feel him on that. I hate my own mothers guts for what she did to me but I would absolutely kill anyone who hurts my baby sister in a fit of rage because the abuse I went through would overlap with the pain she feels and it would just amplify it out of control. That’s why it’s so important to work on yourself and figure out what your emotions are telling you. Now, I can handle my sister crying (18 year age gap) and I can sort out my own emotions before flying off the handle to protect her. I can think logically in that split moment before I make a big mistake. I’m saying all of this to show people that he’s not a violent person and he’s not an abusive person either. He’s extremely traumatised and a victim of abuse and much like a wounded animal, he’s become aggressive out of fear. I hope he can get better with therapy or the boxing or whatever helps him feel more safe and more in control!