I don't know my identity

diffdaggerone September 8, 2025 5:24 pm

I've been feeling confused lately about my sexuality. I've always identified as straight and have had relationships with women. However, recently I came across some gay romance clips on social media that aroused me. I even sought out more content like that, which surprised me. I'm still attracted to women, but I'm also experiencing this new attraction to male content. I'm trying to understand what this means for my identity, and I appreciate having a safe space to explore these feelings.

I'm confused and don't know what to say, I even imagined that men would not try to pursue their feelings on me or even so someone I might know what am I. literally have no idea to my identity right now.

Responses
    Risol September 8, 2025 5:42 pm

    I can understand why you’re feeling conflicted right now. You’ve always seen yourself as straight and felt attracted to women, and that’s still a valid part of you. But noticing that you’re also feeling drawn to men recently doesn’t cancel that out—it just means you’re discovering new sides of yourself. Human attraction isn’t always fixed, and it’s actually pretty common for people to experience shifts or realize things later in life. It doesn’t mean you were lying to yourself before, it just means you’re growing and understanding yourself better.

    You also don’t have to pressure yourself into figuring out the ‘right’ label straight away. Some people find comfort in words like bisexual, pansexual, or questioning, while others prefer not to label at all. What matters most is giving yourself the space to explore your feelings honestly, without shame or rushing.

    Try to see this as part of your journey rather than something that needs to be solved immediately. Who you’re attracted to doesn’t make you less real, less valid, or less yourself. Whatever you find out about your orientation, it doesn’t erase your past or make you any less worthy of love and acceptance. You’re allowed to take your time, and you don’t have to go through it alone—lots of people have been where you are right now ヾ(☆▽☆)

    gojo's cock sleeve September 8, 2025 5:44 pm

    reading, consuming gay content & even being aroused by it is pretty normal & doesn't necessarily make u gay. i mean im straight as fuck but i enjoy reading my fair share of gls too. maybe ask urself if u can see urself being in an actual rs w a man? also, imo u don't *have* to put a label on urself, just take it easy for now

    fwopfwop September 8, 2025 6:46 pm

    Even being able to be conscious and acknowledging this new change in you is already a big step that u should be proud of. Take it slow. Take your time to think and self reflect in a safe space. Avoid negativity or suffocating mindset that might influence you to hide. And keep an open mind.