I'm also over the Jo fans who are calling Ian a slut or that he will give Jo stds like they're so disgusting. Got blocked by one for pointing it out too. Like stop being emotional whiny bitches and learn how to read. This is good story telling as it captures the push and pull of escaping toxic and harmful relationships. It really doesn't happen over night. There's no such thing as the perfect prince charming. Jo entering Ian's life is part of Ian's journey to healing but it isn't the full cure.
These people are so porn brained that they don't understand story telling. All the ground work put into place throughout all the chapters have made it very clear that Ian is trapped by the guilt and TJ's been selfishly exploiting that. Of course he was going to keep going back to TJ because even though TJ isn't good for Ian, Ian is familiar with the feelings TJ brings out of him.
We are now starting to reach the peak of Ian's healing journey. He needs closure with TJ in order to move on and it seems we've reached that point of the story. I'm glad he called TJ out and made TJ aware of the fact that he always knew what TJ did to him. The fact that he's voicing it shows that he's getting closer to accepting the fact TJ isn't good for him. That TJ has always been selfish in their relationship and Ian is the only one whose been sacrificing himself and his wants whilst TJ fights to have everything he wants.
Anyone that hates on Ian for simply being a human who craves companionship is a whole vomit. All of them are focused on the smut, as if that’s the basis of love. Sex is important for many human beings, but there is no happiness without love.
I think Ian has always been aware that TJ is pretty trash, but he never voiced it and continued to stay with him. It’s realistic to be on and off with someone you’re codependent with. He is Ian’s first everything, I’m not surprised and wouldn’t blame him if he relapsed and went back.
Things won’t be magically perfect overnight. His codependency and abusive life has been his whole life, expecting him to choose one and be perfect is unrealistic and brain dead.
These stories show you the type of people that don't understand these things. It's so annoying that they think sexual chemistry is everything for a relationship. I like that the story is actually built around showing how it's the exact opposite. TJ and Ian get down and dirty but Ian has none of his other needs met from TJ. And he's even thought of Jo whilst in the act with Ian. All this is for a reason. He's starting to see that he can live a better life and he needs to let go and move on from the toxic codependency that has entrapped both him and TJ all these years
There’s a reason why I don’t really care for TJ as much as I care for Ian. First of all, TJ put himself in the environment. And Ian did not, on top of it he has had an abusive family.
TJ himself stated in 82 that Ian would put up with him, so he knows he’s a piece of shit and that Ian selflessly was by his side, knowing he put up with his crap and still continued because he believed Ian would remain the same. Hence, “let’s go back to how it was”.
There was love at first but that spark has died. And TJ ruined it, not Ian. He made decisions for Ian, and his footlickers getting upset at Ian for being a little selfish for once.
Ian can sleep with whoever he wants. He is not owned by TJ, he is a human being with feelings, needs and wants that can never be fulfilled by TJ.
TJ could never be a normalcy for Ian. It’s been hinted for a long time that Ian craves normalcy. Some footlicker said nonsense about how Ian doesn’t actually crave normal life, but because he was being influenced by Jo and how much of a manipulator that guy is. Insane take!
TJ and his footlickers have bad rep for a reason. They will ignore the most obvious toxic things from TJ while getting mad at the other guy for a similar thing he might do, but still less worse. What that other guy Jo did was a bit weird, going at it while Ian passed out but ignoring TJ’s “No” to Ian’s refusal to have sex, making excuses like that’s just their dynamic, is wow!
It’s almost like Ian is dependent on TJ. Of course he’d let it slide when TJ said no to him.
Go back to ch 82, again, TJ confirms he knows how Ian put up with him. He took advantage of Ian repeatedly, he knows and continued. That’s much worse to be honest! His whole life, Ian has been abused.
Free Ian. He deserves a life he can breathe in!