Therapy Doesn't exist in this world and things are not as easy as ya'll make it sound to be

If the Duke’s backstory is that he was sexually abused and that’s why he behaves the way he does, then here’s my take:
I’m pro-choice and always have been especially as someone whose parents weren’t emotionally ready to be parents. If a woman is raped, forced to keep the child, and struggles to be a good mother, I don’t blame her. None of it was her choice. Is the child at fault? No, of course not. But neither is the mother who was forced into that situation. And now she's expected to care for the child of their abuser (again, child is not at fault for this)
I’m bringing this up because it feels like people are glossing over the fact that the Duke may have been abused and is now expected to parent a child he didn’t want, all while carrying unresolved trauma. Even with therapy, healing from something like that isn’t quick or easy.
The MC even said that all of Noah’s needs were met his father just didn’t interact with him, which isn’t the same as physical or verbal abuse. I don’t think Noah deserves that distance, but I also can’t bring myself to fully hate the Duke. I just hope he can heal not just for Noah or the MC, but for himself.