Go read My Sadistic Master for a realistic BDSM dynamic. It depicts what an actual Dom/Sub relationship should be like, brutal and harsh during play, but gentle and caring during aftercare. He whips his little sub, then gently applies salve to his welts when they are done. The little sub does something wrong, and after talking it out and dealing with the actual issues, with the sub apologizing Dom asks what he should do if he's sorry. Sub replies that he should be punished, and takes his Dom's hand and puts it on his neck and asks to be choked. When they don't see each other for a while the Sub runs to him, happy to see him. In fact, in the beginning the Dom is hesitant because the Sub is inexperienced and there is an age difference, the Sub is in college and in his early 20's and the Dom is in his mid 40's. So for a long time he just takes the kid to dinner and talks to him about school since the Dom is in the field the Sub is studying. Sub has to literally throw himself and the Dom before anything happens. Just go read it, the Sub loves everything that happens and the Dom is super caring.
Go read My Sadistic Master for a realistic BDSM dynamic. It depicts what an actual Dom/Sub relationship should be like, brutal and harsh during play, but gentle and caring during aftercare. He whips his little sub, then gently applies salve to his welts when they are done. The little sub does something wrong, and after talking it out and dealing with the actual issues, with the sub apologizing Dom asks what he should do if he's sorry. Sub replies that he should be punished, and takes his Dom's hand and puts it on his neck and asks to be choked. When they don't see each other for a while the Sub runs to him, happy to see him. In fact, in the beginning the Dom is hesitant because the Sub is inexperienced and there is an age difference, the Sub is in college and in his early 20's and the Dom is in his mid 40's. So for a long time he just takes the kid to dinner and talks to him about school since the Dom is in the field the Sub is studying. Sub has to literally throw himself and the Dom before anything happens. Just go read it, the Sub loves everything that happens and the Dom is super caring.