Even if you pull the you do not know how it is being a poor person. Your take is still bad.
Both situations are not okay at all.
Being poor and cannot do anything for a situation totally sucks, it is so hard to even go about a day without always stressing about money. The drain of constantly be in edge can lead to decision fatigue and some trauma that could last.
Also saying that being physically abused while rich is good. Also says that you had never been in an abused relationship before and would not understand how physically, emotionally and mentally screwed and shrunk you are due to repeating abuse which leads to trauma... and trauma can lead to mental illnesses and also physical abuse in domestic household has this ill term called "Battered Housewife" that the victim is not mentally sane and has a lot of signs of physical abuse. Physical abuse from the physical jabs up to, yes, you being beaten to death. If physical abuse has never stopped and you kept enduring it. You will be one to be 6ft under= DEAD and you never knew when it will happen but with time, your partner will take you out for his own selfish reason. The trend of repeated abuse pipeline to death is found on police records, so it has statistical records.
and also rich? if your partner is rich and you are poor... you are so in disadvantage. If he can physically abuse you no problem. Bet he can easily financially choke you down to be in the same place and for him to physically abuse you repeatedly.
Being in an abused relationship is just being in voluntary stepping in death row.
I completely understand what you’re saying. I got in an abusive relationship when I was 19 to a sociopathic woman who lied to me about having kids and lied about her age. She said she was 28 and she ended up being 38. We were together for 8 years and it was toxic—horrible. I got the chance to break up and run away back home (we had been living together for 2 years). A few years later, I got in an a dive relationship with a narcissistic guy, who was also a liar and violent. The first relationship was all I knew so when I got in the second one, after telling him about the first one, I realized he used some of the same tactics she did. Also, he was JUST like the ML in this story. Everything he told me to do and say, I did it. He also told me what and how to think…or I’d get my ass beaten.
I knew it was wrong. I knew how they both treated me was wrong, but she talked me into staying and he talked me into believing no one would love somebody like me (I was overweight and Im a black, chocolate skinned girl—not light skinned which a lotta people prefer as far as black people go) and he lowered his standards (I attended a private school in my teens, lived in the suburbs, and is college educated, with a BS degree) to date a girl like me—I wasn’t street enough and I spoke with a “white accent”. He spoke with a black accent and hung around a lot of black guys and dated black, hood girls and lived in the ghetto.
This is yet another triggering story, but like the others, I still read it. I don’t know know why I do this to myself. Anyway, people would call me stupid and a push over and fuss about how they would never let a lover—male or female—treat them that way. I used to say things saaame thing. But I experienced it myself and now I know, we all think/do things differently. Plus, it’s easy to talk shit and be tough at the mouth, BUT you NEVER know WHAT you’d do in that situation until you experience it for yourself.
:/ Well.
Did you read my comment?
I specifically said that I've been in abusive relationships. If there was a trauma Olympics there's very few people who could compete with me. I think I'd probably get gold. Your relationships sound like cake walks honey.
I've been in emotionally abusive relationships that got so bad my hair fell out from the stress. I had to be hospitalized for the panic attacks I was having constantly. I do not have a diagnosis for a general anxiety disorder, that was just what the relationship did to me.
I have been in a physically abusive relationship. I have been in a relationship with a man who beat me to what we both thought was my death. I was beaten until I could barely move and then I was choked until I was unconscious, apparently I stopped breathing. He dragged my body out to the garage because he thought I was dead and didn't know what to do. I regained consciousness about an hour later. That was just one of the beatings.
You're a disgusting hypocrite for having the nerve to tell me that I don't understand or that I don't know what I would do in that situation. There's always some dumbass kid in the comments who thinks I only say these things because "I don't know" even when I specifically say I do know.
I would take either of those relationships again for the opportunity to be rich.
We're allowed to have different opinions.
I am neither poor nor in an abusive relationship right now, but I am far from rich.
I specifically said that I have been an abusive relationships.
Why are you replying to my comment if you didn't even read it?
You clearly don't have any experience being poor, actually poor. Not like oh I can't get Starbucks right now because I'm poor. But poor. Truly destitute and hopelessly poor.
You also clearly haven't done that and been in an abusive relationship at the same time. I have.
Being poor was worse.
Being rich would make being an abusive relationship again worth it TO ME.
And fuck you for having the nerve to tell me what I should feel.
Some answers are a bit bizarre. Why are people taking it so personally? Are you guys competing for who is poorer and more abused? Is that how it is?
OP had a pretty simple stance and somehow, people feel the need to trauma-dumping? Like, did they ask?
I have read your replies, I am sorry that much happened to you.
back to topic. If that is the poison you want to take. So be it. I am sorry for ever offending you. At last I know what your morals are. Have a good day.
Um…..I think I need to be asking that question. Did YOU not read my comment?????? Goddamnit, I was AGREEING WITH YOU!! DID I AT ANY TIME SAY THAT YOU DIDNT UNDERSTAND??? NOTHING WAS DIRECTED TOWARDS YOU!!! IT WAS DIRECTED TOWARDS THE PEOPLE WHO ALWAYS RUN OFF AT THE MOUTH, THINKING THEY WOULD DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT HAD THEY BEEN IN THAT SITUATION, BUT YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOU MIGHT DO UNTIL YOU’VE EXPERIENCED IT!!!!!
When I said “You never know….”, I WASNT TALKING ABOUT YOU!!!!!!!! The “YOU” was a GENERALIZATION TERM DIRECTED AT A PERSON IN GENERAL. AGAIN, NOT YOU !!!!!!!
Jesus Fucking Bartholomew Christ. Your problem is you’re trying to measure trauma dicks, wanting yours to be the biggest, so much so that you got pissy and didn’t take the time to even COMPREHEND WHAT I WAS SAYING!! I wasn’t going against you. I wasn’t talking about you in that last part of that comment. I was literally fucking backing you up and shared with you (JUST LIKE YOU DID!!!!!!!!!!) some of the things I went through. And you have the god-honest nerve to call me a fucking hypocrite!!?
Bad habits are hard to break.
Let's also be real here... I've been poor. I've been in abusive relationships. I would rather be rich. I would rather be rich and in an abusive relationship than poor.
If you don't understand, then you've never really been poor. You've never sat there and watched your cancer get bigger day after day because you can't afford to treat it. You've never eaten mustard packets because they're all you can get. You've never set silently in the dark because the power was cut off and been grateful you can take a cold shower in the morning because the water hasn't been cut off yet.
Getting hit really isn't all that bad.