luke is too dumb and loyal to his friends periodt bcs if my bf who very rarely gaf about o...

goldenkoo October 15, 2025 11:29 pm

luke is too dumb and loyal to his friends periodt bcs if my bf who very rarely gaf about other people started to warn me about something best believe i’m going to side with him than my so called friends. so he’s just being dumb.

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    seabi October 15, 2025 11:31 pm

    how ? you gonna trust your bf who has no proof ur friends r being weird ? not cool for ur friends girllll, irl you’d just think your bf is being too possessive or smth, just how luke thinks rn

    Smokey October 15, 2025 11:33 pm

    Nah Luke feeling are valid he known is friends longer then he has Andrew. It's normal to not want to believes a person you considered a friend is doing you dirty. Also Andrew has a tendency to be overprotective. Luke believes his friends are good people and for the most part they are. It's just bruno.

    Natuchipss October 15, 2025 11:53 pm

    Like you would trust your boyfriend of some months over your friends of years(,,•ࡇ• ,,)?

    Palma October 15, 2025 11:55 pm
    how ? you gonna trust your bf who has no proof ur friends r being weird ? not cool for ur friends girllll, irl you’d just think your bf is being too possessive or smth, just how luke thinks rn seabi

    Irl, unless I'm being defensive due to my own issues, if a bf like Andrew (considering his character/past/dynamic with his partner) showed such serious worry I would at the very least be open to listen and explore it with him. Unless he said something completely unhinged, I would at least try and find a compromise that would put him at some ease, while I still hang with my friends and we figure if there's anything to actually worry about (or until the bf shares the full info, which I'm not aware of in this scenario).
    So yeah, neither of them is handling the situation that great.

    fiya October 15, 2025 11:55 pm

    no anyone with common sense would be suspicious of why their boyfriend is all of a sudden acting like their friends who they’ve known longer than the boyfriend are suspicious and trying to get you to stay away from them

    seabi October 15, 2025 11:59 pm
    Irl, unless I'm being defensive due to my own issues, if a bf like Andrew (considering his character/past/dynamic with his partner) showed such serious worry I would at the very least be open to listen and expl... Palma

    but we can see that andrew is more on the overprotective side, right? and they already talked about how andrew don’t like his friends, if andrew was my bf and didn’t like my friends then he goes saying he doesn’t trust them well ibvisouly im not gonna listen to him, i mean luke has been friends with them for years how can he suddenly choose to believe andrew ? doubting your friends is crazy imo, but we just have different opinions and that’s fine ! luke just thinks andrew is worrying too much

    Natuchipss October 16, 2025 12:15 am
    but we can see that andrew is more on the overprotective side, right? and they already talked about how andrew don’t like his friends, if andrew was my bf and didn’t like my friends then he goes saying he d... seabi

    I do think Luke is being overly trusting. Like should he just take Andrew word for a fact? Hell no. I would take Andrew's word with caution and observe. I would want to trust both my boyfriend and my friends.
    And c'mon, Bruno is out there acting super sus and jumpy and guilty, and is only changing Luke's lines of the play
    If I was Luke I'd be like, okay Bruno, we need to talk. I want to trust you but you've been acting weird dude, what's going on?

    Palma October 16, 2025 12:18 am
    but we can see that andrew is more on the overprotective side, right? and they already talked about how andrew don’t like his friends, if andrew was my bf and didn’t like my friends then he goes saying he d... seabi

    There's alot of more nuance though than seeing it in a black and white way like you're describing.
    It's not about doubting your friends and cutting them off at the drop of a hat and believing in your bf 100%, it's about having spent alot of time with your bf, knowing much abt him and understanding that there are reasons to his overprotectiveness and while the occasional extreme aspect of it should be managed, it's very likely that something VALID triggered it. Especially when the subject of the worry is a BIG grp of friends in uni with one guy having totally gone off the rails already, you can't be naive enough to just disregard even a 1/100 chances that something could be going on, even if it's not that serious. In the end, unless your bf isn't open to finding a middle ground and is heading to a very pushy/domineering direction, why wouldn't you give him the benefit of the doubt that his intentions aren't malicious and there's either some misunderstanding or there's some point to what he's saying that you can't see? Ofc you'd gtfo of there if it reached any dangerous levels, but I just don't see it in these specific circumstances

    Natuchipss October 16, 2025 12:21 am
    There's alot of more nuance though than seeing it in a black and white way like you're describing. It's not about doubting your friends and cutting them off at the drop of a hat and believing in your bf 100%, i... Palma

    Frrr, people change, people do stuff when they are desperate. If that wasn't the case, we wouldn't see those documentaries about people being betrayed by friends and even family

    seabi October 16, 2025 12:22 am
    I do think Luke is being overly trusting. Like should he just take Andrew word for a fact? Hell no. I would take Andrew's word with caution and observe. I would want to trust both my boyfriend and my friends.An... Natuchipss

    mhhh true, and andrew also said smth like « even you know something feels off ». i think luke knows there’s smth wrong with his friends but don’t wanna believe it cuz, well, they’re his friends, who would want to believe your friends are betraying you? staying delusional till the end is better
    id listen to andrew but with no proof.. but fs i wont JUST trust my boyfriend because he’s serious about it. friends also matter a lot

    seabi October 16, 2025 12:27 am
    There's alot of more nuance though than seeing it in a black and white way like you're describing. It's not about doubting your friends and cutting them off at the drop of a hat and believing in your bf 100%, i... Palma

    it’s not about not giving him the benefit of doubt, luke and and andrew already talked about it, and how andrew doesn’t like his friends, like obviously luke is just gonna b annoyed when andrew keeps pushing it, it’s luke’s choice to believe andrew or not. he’d rather think his friends r good people, especially because they’re in a play together.
    i honestly just think that luke’s reaction is totally valid, and that andrew shouldn’t be acting this way, because he’s hiding things from luke and it’s making everything more complicated. he could’ve just said what he saw and then luke would’ve believed him. with no proof well, it’s hard to believe someone, so yeah that’s how i see it, luke rather ignore andrew even if deep down he knows andrew is right because it’s better this way.
    and yes i tend to see everything in black in white, that’s my bad girl

    Palma October 16, 2025 12:33 am
    it’s not about not giving him the benefit of doubt, luke and and andrew already talked about it, and how andrew doesn’t like his friends, like obviously luke is just gonna b annoyed when andrew keeps pushin... seabi

    :( Sorry, I just find what you're saying too absolute for a relationship to work out. But we're entitled to our opinions as long as they're not harming others. Thanks for the talk

    seabi October 16, 2025 12:35 am
    :( Sorry, I just find what you're saying too absolute for a relationship to work out. But we're entitled to our opinions as long as they're not harming others. Thanks for the talk Palma

    dw bye bye ദദ◍˃ ᵕ ˂◍)

    Palma October 16, 2025 12:45 am
    Frrr, people change, people do stuff when they are desperate. If that wasn't the case, we wouldn't see those documentaries about people being betrayed by friends and even family Natuchipss

    That's exactly the perspective I'd have irl if I was in the right headspace. Andrew isn't just a dude who Luke met a few months ago, went on a few dates with and hasn't shared anything deep with. They've experienced enough together that if he's consistently bringing up this topic, even if Luke believes that 99% it's due to something he misunderstood or he took more seriously than it was (due to his lack of experience with that friend grp or his exaggerated sense of danger), it's worth giving the aspect of his worry some acknowledgement. At the very least to let him know he appreciates that he cares and also to ask how they can work it out so it doesn't interfere with his friendships, nor Andrew's studies. Andrew wouldn't become even more apprehensive about sharing what he knows and Luke wouldn't be so stuck in assuming that it's just bc "he doesn't like my friends".
    Then Luke could see if it's just a product of overprotectiveness (which could be handled or not) OR he'd have to feel secure enough to consider the case that some ppl he considers close to him could end up hurting him and it's not gonna be the end of the world to him. The latter is why I think Luke is being defensive and why it doesn't play out this way. They each got their issues, but I really don't see one of them being straight up wrong in how they behave.