I don’t know what relationships you have with others but normal people don’t use each other without the other knowing for their own gain. Juheon has been used his whole life by others so when he found out his lover only approached him to use him for inspiration, he had every right to be hurt, mad and leave. That’s SUCH a shitty thing to do to someone, so it doesn’t mean jack if Dohu ended up gaining real feelings for him later on. His intent was to use him and that’s it.
I think you're the exception here dawg. Plus "using" isn't inherently a bad thing either. Just thinking, "I feel happy when I'm with (Person A) I should see them more often," is using them. Its not that deep, everyone has a reason for approaching you. Its what they do after thats a biggie, and while I do agree Juheon has right to he upset. I don't this situation is as black and white as you're making it out to be.
I get why juheon was mad, but like. Idk if the author just left most of it out but I dont even remember dohu writing anything about juheon except fricken hashtags lmfao. Yes he approached him to use him as inspiration, but it’s obvious once they started hanging out like past the movie date that dohu wasn’t hanging out with him because he wanted to use him, he just liked being with him. Especially after they had sex, it makes no sense for him to do all of this just to use him, the only reasoning could be that he’s autistic/neurodivergent and thinks differently from other people like juheon, but that’s never directly addressed besides saying ‘you don’t even understand emotions.’ Which, okay, if you believe that, then why the hell are you mad at him? How is it his fault if he can’t understand emotions the same way everyone else does? That just means you need to communicate even more clearly. Which juheon didn’t let him do (although dohu also didn’t go out of his way either, so I believe they’re both to blame)
This guy acts like Dohu killed his dog or something. He used you as a muse something many very famous artists do.
It’s fine if you don’t like it and are hurt by it but to act like Dohu is some serial abuser is so melodramatic. Especially considering Juheon was using Dohu as a salve for his mommy issues as well.
By all account Dohu was a good person and great partner who has some admittedly obtuse quirks. But he’s real about them. He had a single lie of omission and Juheon explodes….is your care and trust that fragile?
We all “usel” each other whether lovers, friend, or foe. It is the very nature of what it means to be in relation to another person. It’s not inherently a bad thing.
For instance If you find joy and pleasure in a friend in a way you are using each other to making each other happy.