All his life, Jeon felt used and taken advantage of. When he met Dohu and got along with him, he thought Dohu was genuinely interested in building a real relationship.
I know that Jeon can be hypocritical. He faked emotions and interactions with other people, yet he doesn’t want Dohu to fake anything with him. But that’s exactly what makes his situation complicated. When you finally meet someone who truly matters, you start craving honesty and realness because you’re tired of pretending. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about finally wanting something genuine after a lifetime of feeling used.
At the same time, Dohu’s side matters too. He never faked his emotions. He just has a hard time recognizing or understanding them. He struggles to process what he feels, and that can make him seem cold or detached.
Maybe Jeon would’ve given him a chance to explain, but when you’ve spent your whole life being deceived, it’s hard to believe in someone whose sincerity you can’t fully read. Once trust is broken, love alone isn’t always enough. Both of them are hurting — Jeon because he’s scared of being used again, and Dohu because he doesn’t know how to prove that his feelings are real.
In my case, I wouldn’t get mad at Dohu. But I’m not Jeon. I grew up with different experiences, so I see things differently. Jeon isn’t me, and he doesn’t have to think or feel like I do. Even if someone has gone through the same experiences as Dohu, that doesn’t mean they’ll react or feel the same way either. We’re all unique. We're a product of both NATURE AND NURTURE.
What really bothers me is when people invalidate someone else’s feelings or dismiss them as “minor.” You didn’t live their lives, so you don’t get to decide what should or shouldn’t hurt them
All his life, Jeon felt used and taken advantage of. When he met Dohu and got along with him, he thought Dohu was genuinely interested in building a real relationship.
I know that Jeon can be hypocritical. He faked emotions and interactions with other people, yet he doesn’t want Dohu to fake anything with him. But that’s exactly what makes his situation complicated. When you finally meet someone who truly matters, you start craving honesty and realness because you’re tired of pretending. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about finally wanting something genuine after a lifetime of feeling used.
At the same time, Dohu’s side matters too. He never faked his emotions. He just has a hard time recognizing or understanding them. He struggles to process what he feels, and that can make him seem cold or detached.
Maybe Jeon would’ve given him a chance to explain, but when you’ve spent your whole life being deceived, it’s hard to believe in someone whose sincerity you can’t fully read. Once trust is broken, love alone isn’t always enough. Both of them are hurting — Jeon because he’s scared of being used again, and Dohu because he doesn’t know how to prove that his feelings are real.
In my case, I wouldn’t get mad at Dohu. But I’m not Jeon. I grew up with different experiences, so I see things differently. Jeon isn’t me, and he doesn’t have to think or feel like I do. Even if someone has gone through the same experiences as Dohu, that doesn’t mean they’ll react or feel the same way either. We’re all unique. We're a product of both NATURE AND NURTURE.
What really bothers me is when people invalidate someone else’s feelings or dismiss them as “minor.” You didn’t live their lives, so you don’t get to decide what should or shouldn’t hurt them