i feel like you're failing to appreciate all this from a perspective other than the one we get as readers.
imagine in you own life you get to know someone, you have realizations about your sexuality bc of them, you put in all your love and effort and then discover they have a document where they've been describing all of your behaviours.
it'd be striking and hurtful, and you'd probably feel blindsided about not knowing where the limit lies between inspiration and reality. again, WE know that dohu's intentions quickly changed but how in the world should juheon act?
it's also not true that dohu didn't know it was wrong or he thought it was better not to tell, he constantly went back on the document and even was preparing to tell juheon. dohu's mistake in the end was him being a coward. he was too scared that it'd be a deal breaker to juheon so he decided against being honest.
obviously i'm not saying he deserves to be depressed or that it's an easy situation to be in or that this is hus fault 100%. but what i will say is that you're being very dismissive of juheon's feelings and for some reason him in his hurt state and broken heart should've acted logically, or that he wasn't justified in feeling how he felt.
i'll reiterate, dohu isn't guilty of the worst sin imaginable or anything, but manipulating the person you've already hurt so badly into caring for you... that's a very selfish asshole move.
the same as you accuse me of dismissing Juheon's feelings, which is not true, I can say that you forget that Dohu's way of thinking is different than usual person.
Yes, he was scared of Juheon's reaction, and many times he wanted to tell him but he FAILED which I also pointed out.
They ended things without talking about everything properly, despite them both still being in love. Just leaving for years, without giving a chance a person you love is also "asshole move".
All I'm saying is the way this break up happened wasn't only Dohu's fault, it was on both sides.
So did u just totally ignore dohu's problems and stories? Accusing others of dismissing juheon's feelings but did u ever put dohu's special way of thinking and feeling emotions into consideration when u typed all this?
Nobody is expecting him to act logically when he was overwhelmed by everything. But dohu tried to like and understand juheon from the start because if u read the manhwa properly, dohu said multiple times he dosen't get stuff like that.
All they needed was time and communication. Putting the blame fully on dohu just shows that you're being ignorant of the most important trait about dohu.
It's like dohu's inability to think and feel like others is literally one of the main obstacle for their relationship. Shocking right.
I've seen a lot of people blaming solely Dohu for what happened between them, and I think it's not so black and white.
HUGE yapping ahead!!!!
Dohu is extremely antisocial, he always had trouble keeping realtionships with people. He never would have thought someone like Juheon would seriously wanna date him. He thought Juheon will get tired of him soon anyways.
His intentions were never to hurt Juheon.
Yes, he approached him on purpose but along the way he realized that juheon started to mean more to him.
He is obviously on the spectrum, he doesn't understand things like other people do. I don't think he's a saint, but when he failed to tell the truth to Juheon for so long, he thought it would bring more harm then good. He thought it's not that important, because he loves him RIGHT NOW.
Juheon got hurt by Dohu hiding his intentions. Dohu explained his reasoning and still, Juheon decides to ghost him, cutting off any possibility of reconciliation(even if that was for their own good because of his family blackmailing him, that was still a shitty move that left Dohu in depression for 4 years). Juheon also knows Dohu is WEIRD and thinks differently, he knows he has trouble understanding emotions, so why couldn't he give him a some time to think this through and explain himself properly?
Yes, Dohu made a mistake by not being honest with him, but because of the way he thinks, he thought not telling him would be for the better. He realized he loves Juheon, so why he approached him wasn't important to him.
Yes, Juheon got hurt by Dohu, but he got so blinded by his pain he didn't give Dohu a chance to truly explain his feelings and why he did all that. He also overlooked that with Dohu, it was different than with others. Sure, Dohu "used" him, but if Juheon were to calm down for a second, he would see he was also genuine with him.
Dohu initially got close the Juheon for a reason different than Juheon thought it was. But the outcome ended up the same. Dohu failed to recognize how hurt Juheon will feel when he finds out the truth. That's what pains Juheon the most, but also that's just how Dohu is. Dohu needed more time to process this situation, to properly apologize to him, but when he finally realized this, it was too late.
Not to mention, man, all the trauma aside, Dohu really haven't done anything THAT evil! he used him as a muse, but if you read that story with eyes open, you can see that besides that, he just got captivated by him as a person, from the beginning. how he analyzes him, he even said it himself, writing helps him understand people, it's just his way of getting to know the person he's interested in.
so yeah, I think they are both at fault to how things ended those 4 years ago.
and YEAH, they just need to TALK lol.