Frrr, cause people really don't understand that watching your loved one slowly die or slowly forgetting you and what you went through together is devastating. How could they think he was SELFISH when he decided to go through all that alone without the woman he loved to spare her the sorrow. Not that what he did was good, but it wasn't because of his "selfishness", at least that's what I think
my thoughts exactly. his actions were antithetical to selfishness because he decided he would rather be detested by her than make her witness a slow death of someone she holds dear. the takes i've seen on why he did what he did are beyond any scope of comprehension and needlessly bad faith.
THANK. YOU. SO. FUCKING. MUCH. Some people here acting like its a very simple decision to make but i get him, if you are on the verge of dying, you will think about every possibility and i think you are allowed to be selfish at that moment, especially when you know it's the end for you. (But i still dont think his actions were selfish, i just think he is allowed to be selfish despite what some people say)
exactly! like if it were me, i would want to do something similar because i'd hate to spend my potential last months of life watching my loved ones cry over me every day, only for me to miraculously survive it but i spend the majority of the rest of my life not remembering who anyone is. it's truly a situation where nobody wins.
so many of the comments here are completely insane. i truly do wish life was as simple as some of you seem to see it, but for your sakes, i hope none of you are ever put in the position hyeonji and haebom would have been in because i know me and my mother had been and i know what it's like to stew in such bottomless grief. watching a family member waste away in both body and mind didn't do anything but leave my mother in a gaping financial hole and leave the both of us with long lasting trauma.
should hyeonji have still been given a chance to have a say? perhaps. but let's not sit here and pretend like haebom's father is some awful and evil person for not wanting to force someone he loved to watch him suffer and wither while she was helpless to do anything for him. he left without a word because he knew she would have followed him otherwise, regardless of what he said. a 40 year battle to full recovery is not a miniscule amount of time spent, no matter who you are, and the struggle would have been the same with or without hyeonji and haebom there, yet the misery would have been tripled if they had been present. no one has to like it, and even haebom's father is still saddled with immense guilt, but he made a decision many people would have and currently do make to spare the people they love of suffering any further than strictly necessary. that's not cruelty; that's kindness.