
I’ll be damned if my kid go out of his way to meet a family member I cut off cause what they did to me….u can go live with ya grammy hoe. Like that’s only ya granny cause of me and I clearly never bring her up so it’s my right to forbid u from meeting her unless u 18 then I cant force you but as a minor you’re under my jurisdiction no shade….but also like literally I’ve never heard of a kid doing this like who goes and meets a family member that u never bring up cause you’re aware we have bad blood like this is betrayal bruh

Would you really believe that if byul knew what went down with his father and grandma, he would still want to have a relationship with her knowing how much that would hurt his father? I feel like byul doesn't know anything and is waiting to find out the truth but not desperate to do so, he just like the person he knows right now and satisfied being in good terms with them even behind his father's back.

I feel like it’s on Dojin more than anything. You’re not supposed to lie to your spouse. It’s not unheard of for a teenager to go behind a parent’s back, especially when it’s a grandparent. It’s natural for a kid to be curious about a grandparent they’ve never met. He also doesn’t know all the details of their past. But going behind your spouse!? That’s a nono.

My mom has a huge fight with her sister and cut ties with her, when I came to her home country I visited her… because my mom knows their fight had NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. and she’s my auntie regardless.
Doing the opposite is using your child as a punishment for real …
But yeah lying isn’t right and they should have a proper conversation about it

Listen so many things factor into why u still feel the need to see your aunt. Like what was the fight abt and how bad was it etc. Heesung mom was a deadbeat to him aka she doesn’t exist hence why he never brings her up and byuls aware sum went down but doesn’t know what. Byul intentionally seeking her out is weird also another factor would be if u already had a connection and relationship with ya auntie before mommy cut her off that plays into that as well. Byul had no connection to granny prior to him seeking her out so it’s not like he had a connection already and wanted it to stay or sum. But u kinda seem like u have the opinion that family is family no matter what as long as they ain’t do nun to u so I don’t think we gon agree with each other

Bro acting like she actually atoning her mistake, bro acting like she has asking forgiveness from Hyesung, when the last time they met she was shitting on Hyesung by saying Hyesung wasn't searching for her too, like how is that okay? Leaving your child in age of 8/10 with his abusive father that led him to get a forced pregnancy. Like who tf thinking Hyesung get to allow his child met grandma? She can't go to hell for all he knows

Depends on what the fight is about. In this storyline, Hyesung's mother abandoned him as a child and showed back up when he was in a better place as an adult. If that's someone you feel won't hurt your child, fine. But this clearly caused him issues growing up, especially with his POS dad belittling and ignoring him.
Maybe we can take this to the more extreme end. Would you feel the same if his mother had murdered someone? Or SA'ed a child the same age as him at the time? To Hyesung, it is the same level. She crossed the line and he feels that not only is the relationship not worth salvaging, he doesn't want her to have the same opportunity to do the same to his child.
I have relatives where they aren't comfortable to be around but they haven't crossed that line for me. For example, I have at least one confirmed racist grandparent and the other side has one that was at least racist when my dad was growing up but I have never witnessed this in person. I have dated men of color. If I had kids with them, I would not take them around the former and my partner would have the power to tell me to go no contact with either of them if they did feel that prejudice.
Now, let's say my dad gets in an argument about how I am raising my kids to the point he tries to sue for custody. I won't speak to him again but I would allow some visits with supervision. That isn't crossing the line for me to be concerned about my child's safety with him. It would be supervised so he doesn't try to kidnap them but I know he wouldn't harm them. (This is the hypothetical part because he wouldn't have it in him to sue and that I don't have kids yet.)
I have no idea what Hyesung is going to do with Doujin; this is a BIG line he crossed, even though Doujin doesn't know his son is meeting her. Hyesung will be slightly more forgiving with his son. I agree with the others that Byul may not have all the information. At the very least, he hasn't heard his dad's side of the story when it comes to his grandma, of how much it hurt him.

It’s not my opinion but Byul and Hyesung are 2 different people. Having a connection once in a while, visiting once in a while doesn’t harm Byul and it’s definitely his decision to make as long she is sane…
Him lying is wild first of all his parents deserve to know where he is… especially after they caught him lying about studying. Also if it makes hyesung anxious maybe they could find a solution of him going with Dojin.
I’ve been exposed to worse stories irl of a mother that physically abused her children, and the father told them if they want to see her it’s THEIR choice because it’s THEIR mother BUT it would be with a professional therapist outside, they can’t visit her by themselves.
I think that’s what bothers me. It’s Byul’s decision to make period. If he wouldn’t want to see her that’s also his choice…
But him not involving his parents is another big problem and the only right things is for hyesung to lose it, it’s real betrayal.

I definitely agree that it needs to be supervised. And hyesung has the right to fear especially bc of what he had gone through.
But still it’s Byul decision to make if he want to be in touch with her under HIS PARENTS CONDITIONS.
In the comment above I mentioned an extreme story, about an abusive mother and I’m telling you the story is INSANE sa and attempted murder was involved.
When I heard the father told them it’s their decision to make if they want to see her under supervision I was like ?????
But then I realised it makes him a good father. It takes a lot to make such a decision , I would’ve been scared to death but he gave them their choice… In the end it’s their mother, if they don’t ever wanna see her again it would make sense definitely like I would’ve cut ties with her too.. but it’s still their decision to make under his and professional therapist’s decisions..
I’m not trying to defend any horrific behaviour, what I’m trying to say. Is that a children should be involved in this decision too.. under supervision 100%

You’re literally putting words in my mouth wtf when did I ever say it was right or that hyesung has to forgive her. She was a terrible mother and what she did is awful.
He doesn’t have to talk to her or be with her or keep in touch.
But she is still the grandmother of his child.
And I don’t think Byul needs to get involved in it. And he has the right to decide whether he wants to meet her… it’s not about hyesung
Just like Chowon’s husband showed their child to chowon’s mother. She’s her grandma….
It’s funny me how you don’t even read what I’m saying or read it the way you wanna see it

Byul has the right to decide if HE wants to stay in touch with her, UNDER HIS PARENTS’ SUPERVISION. And I also shared my opinion with real life stories I’ve seen and experienced above…
Him going behind his parents back is terrible but to begin with there’s NO PROBLEM WITH HIM WANTING TO MERT HIS GRANDMA

How will she harm Byul? I’m genuinely asking.
She hurt hyesung for sure and left him all by himself. But how talking to her will harm him?how seeing his grandma hurts Byul?
That’s why with this fear to begin with it should’ve been with supervision, but looking at reality she’s just hanging out with him… that’s it

And like I said I’ve been exposed to worse stories irl of a mother that physically abused her children, and the father told them if they want to see her it’s THEIR choice because it’s THEIR mother BUT it would be with a professional therapist outside, they can’t visit her by themselves.
I was confused when I heard it but it made me realise how smart children are to make their own choices for themselves.
And here his grandma wouldn’t even lay a finger on him and mentally won’t hurt him.
So I think it’s OKAY THAT B Y U L WANTS TO SEE HER.
and that’s it bye
I don’t get why people are mad at Byul. Regardless of what happened between his mother and his grandma ITS HIS GRANDMA and he has the right to choose whether he wants to talk with her or not, Especially if she’s on her right mind right now.
Revenging her by not showing your child, Hurts your child. Especially when he is all grownup. It’s their family…
write doing it behind his parents back isn’t right but There is no problem with him wanting and going to see his grandma"..,