even if he cheated on the mum, why didn't he try to "preserve" his father son relationship? he never reached out to him, i bet he never even sent a birthday card or holiday money to him.
People like this so called father who is just a sperm donor in my opinion should keep going once they've damaged everything and stop making people relive the pain they put them through.
What I'm saying is even if a relationship with his mom is damaged forever, one with his son can still be mended. I really don't see why that can't be, and because he was a shitty father in the past, and in the present, that doesn't mean there's no chance for them to have a good relationship in the future.
you are absolutely right, guess im just not that forgiving
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Nah some things are better unfixed the dad may never change I think they should keep things the way they are to make it realistic everything don't have to be Kumbaya. Not all fathers are ment to rekindle their relationships with their kids I like how things are
I doubt things will remain like this. Then watz de point of getting Woojin to take care of him in the first place if in the end he will just give up. This will show that Woojin will finally be able to "handle stress"
His mom is the one who made him go visit his dad, plus his dad give up on them a long time ago. He destroyed his marriage, he destroyed his father son relationship now he wants to crawl back as soon as things go south for him very selfish man. He's even killing himself with alcohol, why do Woojin and his mom have to go throgh the hurt again. I believe in forgiveness, but just cuz you forgive somebody don't mean you have to be around them. Stress is always be there with his father around or not, he himself will have to find strength within himself to deal with it, he should probably try relying on those who really care for him. I remember when he met his dad not too long ago and his dad wasn't trying to fix his father son relationship it was just about his mom never once did he truly try to apologize to his son it was always about him. His sisters is going through a lot too his dad doesn't even acknowledge that, how will he acknowledge his son if he can't even do that for his sister.Hopefully Woojin will change for himself not because he's taking care of his selfish sick dad.
totally agree with that^^^if the dad really wanted to fix his relationship with his son he would show some signs but he doesnt all he does is push him away with his pityful self
The dad isn't trying to "crawl back" to his son, he doesn't even want him there. My point isn't about deserving forgiveness, it's about fixing a broken relationship caused by broken people who aren't even cooperative, but you go through with it anyway cause they are your family and you are strong. Not easy but it can be done, I know this first hand. The biggest grudge Woojin has towards his dad is related to his mom, the rest we can just speculate. So even though he doesn't deserve to be with Woojin's mom again, with his son it's not the same thing. What happened with his mom is their business, and once you fail to realize that you will hold personal grudges forever that had nothing to do with you. Woojin loves his mom, he's the ultimate mama's boy, that's why he hate his dad because of what he did to her. But wether or not anyone likes it that miserable man right there is his own blood father and my point is not about the Woojin forgiving him, it's about them working their own relationship regardless of how ''undeserving'' his dad is. From my own personal experience my parents divorced when I was 12 and I spent the next 9 years never speaking to my dad unless I had to. What he did was worse than Woojin's dad but sooner or later I realize that I can't hold my mom's grudge towards him for the rest of my life. There was no apologies or anything but we just got back in contact and work on our own relationship. So that's why I think Woojin and his dad can still work things out. And I use "work" cause fixing such relationships is exactly that, "work". If anyone prefers they continue a strained one then that's okay, I just prefer that in the end of all the storm that's coming they will be father and son again.
Okay, now things are getting serious. I'm glad we're getting on the father son matter. Woojin's dad may not have been husband of the century, but I would like it if Woojin and him can work things out and still preserve a good father and son relationship regardless of his dad's previous...'misdemeanors'. Yeah some might prefer the, "he's a cheating scum who should die alone" route, but I'm my opinion reconciliation between father and son is better, though a bit harder. He may have messed it up with his mom, but I think he can still work things out with his son even though it looks like Woojin will need to be quite resilient judging from this behavior.