everyone always gushing over autism but lo and behold when it makes shit difficult, ppl tu...

it's like that one trend on tiktok (i hate even calling it a trend) where ppl were glorifying having a girlfriend with autism and it's like... it's so weird. you can't only get Cute And Socially Acceptable Neurodivergency, in fact there's a lot of INCREDIBLY frustrating things for both parties involved that comes from that

anyway let Dohu figure shit out, sure it's not an excuse or anything but IF HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND, I GUARANTEE YALL HE WILL NOT JUST MAGICALLY FIGURE SHIT OUT

they were together long enough that Juheon shoulda known Dohu better imo and not just jumped to conclusions that Dohu was doing shit maliciously lmao

Thank you! They don't know him like we do

I approve as an autistic person who knows exactly how shitty can be struggling with people. My cute autistic boy. Even if it's not canon, head canon representation.

honestly i feel like there comes a point where it's just so obvious that i don't think anyone necessarily has to say, in universe, that someone is on the spectrum? like if anything i relate to it more that way when it's not like a label just put on a character for Internet Points but just an intrinsic part of their character

if that makes sense? idm if the author makes it obvious with dialogue ofc but atp i'm like 110% sure Dohu is neurodivergent because he is LITERALLY ME from a few years ago when i didn't know wtf was going on but i knew something was different

Lol same!

I mean, being in the spectrum is not a justification for hurting people by not knowing social clues, it's understandable but it doesn't automatically make a auto-pass to forgive.

like i said, it's not an excuse but it is a reason and Juheon insisting on believing Dohu was doing all of it out of malice instead of not understanding is certainly not helping

Also, maybe I am not remembering correctly (I have been reading this for a long time), but I feel like Dohu did like a case study of the other dude on a character, to understand him, and himself better. I understand that due to his past trauma the other dude felt used and betrayed, that's obviously valid. But I feel like this is the point OP is trying to get to, Dohu as an autistic coded character process things differently, he was really interested on the other dude and that was his way of processing it. If the other dude would have been open to talk to Dohu, they could have avoid a lot of pain. But as I mentioned before, I understand that his reaction was due to his past trauma! Just trying to shine a little light from this side.
As in most relationships, it is communication issues on both sides! ╮(￣▽￣)╭

Actually, I do agree, is just it's a cause. My male friends who are in the spectrum can be clueless af. My bf was like that, before being a couple, he did things and said things without thinking idk dude this might hurt her. We fought a lot. I love this story for the character development. So smooth how someone low key in the spectrum with someone with severe family trauma, issues and a very difficult environment can hurt so much.
This is very human, very consistent, I mean ik is fiction but I can't deny that this feel so much, hurt so much and I just wanna hug both of them and also slapping them and tell them what are they doing wrong, solve every misunderstanding and help them with the wedding. But no! I'm here crying with you all.
Also I do think it's very different being an autistic girl than an autistic boy, I have a brother also in the spectrum and he's just like the MC, straight, but yeah, so clueless to the point to be cruel. Girls are invalidated and have to be more careful and eloquent since childhood, so most of the autistic girls that I know, including myself, are sensitive, cry babies and capable to empathize with a lot of people.

this! it's a common issue that neurotypical people will misunderstand something a neurodivergent person does to be something out of malice, even if the neurodivergent person tries to tell the other that they're just trying to understand

i really hope these two can have a proper talk soon