grandma’s side of the story has been known !!

yep as a women I have empathy for her but her as a mother…the decisions she made was terrible. Same time her decisions were based on her living situations and trying to survive. It’s all a mess tbh everyone in the story is never 100% innocent. I guess that just shows how messy and complicated life can be

this isn’t a debate on whether hyesung’s mother leaving his only son is justified or what. it’s the fact that hyesung doesn’t want ANYTHING to do with her, and expects his family to do the same and respect his boundaries. because at the end of the day, hyesung hates the fact that she still left her son with her abuser, making him endure the same horror she did. it’s not about empathizing with her cause that arc has been done with already. it’s the betrayal from hyesung’s family, dangling his mistake in front of his face as if he wasn’t pushed to the edge like that.

absolutely and Hyesung’s mother was as young as he was when he had Byul cause remember when Dojun met her the first thing he thought was "she’s so young" … meaning she was just as young as the Hyesung we met at the very beginning of the manhwa, when she was being abused and sexually trafficked to various men by her husband.

There’s just no way that someone as young and traumatized as she was, could have make a good decision for the well-being of her little boy.

but I will say it’s very disturbing to see comments calling Hyesung’s mother a bitch and all cause at the end of the day (although fictional) she still is a sexual trafficked victim and rape survivor … and all that in defense of her son who was also raped

but that’s not what I’m adressing in my comment ? so I fail to see how what you’re saying has to do with what I commented.

I was only pointing out that we readers, knows Hyesung’s mother backstory and that Hyesung is entitled to feeling hurt by it but that I (I was and I’m still talking about myself) has empathy for her and the decisions she has made throughout her trauma.

Así mismo

uh yeah?? and i’m addressing your comment about how you were weirded out by some comments by saying that the readers and commenters here are siding with hyesung because of his family’s betrayal and not because his mother’s action doesn’t deserve grace. the readers here HATE the fact that she’s still in the picture, completely disregarding hyesung’s wishes. no one is undermining her trauma at all.

again and I’m sorry to insist but at no point my comment was about me being weirded out about the comments siding with Hyesung.

I started my OG comment by saying this "I’m sorry but I’m a lil weirded out by some comments abt Hyesung’s mother ?" : the comments I was referring were the misogynistic name calling (bitch in particular) to refer to a rape and sexual trafficked victim (which is why I then commented on her backstory and linked it to Hyesung’s own story).

I’ve said nothing about those who side or defend Hyesung, I ended my comment saying that Hyesung was entitled to feel however he feels about his own mother but that I (once again, speaking for my own self only) has empathy for his mother.

I believe you might have misunderstood my comment, as me commenting on Hyesung’s mother story = me chastising Hyesung for being upset at Byul and Dojun for talking to his mother and the other readers for defending him. which is not the case.

It's not about what his mother did it's about how byul and his own husband go behind his back. If the mom wants contact she should try to fix things with her own child first and not go behind his back

It’s okay to feel empathy for her past, but leaving her son (someone who can’t leave) with the man who sex trafficked her is something I can’t ever justify. Most of the comments I’ve seen echo this sentiment, that she’s irredeemable, and honestly, that’s a completely valid opinion.

I also think everyone is scared there’s gonna be a redemption arc, so they’re letting it be known how angry and invalidating that is to Hyesung.

i see! thanks for clarifying! personally, I don’t think the grandmother’s side of story holds any weight to this family drama because that’s been discussed in an old side story already. also, byul’s comment of how hyesung “doesn’t know her story” also gave me the impression that this chapter will start another debate whether or not hyesung’s mother’s actions are justified or not. and I thought your comment was steering toward that direction. sorry for not understanding your intention! i do agree that some comments here are severely insensitive toward a rape victim.

u explained this so well. i think most of the hate comments toward the mother is borne from the fact that most of the readers see character as irredeemable and irresponsible, regardless of her backstory

Sorry just saw this comment, but people hating and calling her a bitch (which is harsh, but so is leaving ur son with a rapist), has nothing to do with her being sex trafficked. It’s her actions in regards to Hyesung and Byul. Her coming into HIS kids life, conversing with HIS husband, using THEIR money is absolutely insane.

RIGHT THAT PART. this is also why I commented that the grandmother’s backstory has nothing to do with the current arc, and at this point, the comments toward her. that’s done and gone. most of the comments here are just a reaction to how shameless her actions are when hyesung clearly stated that he doesn’t want jack shit from her

I would have to disagree with you on this. putting aside BL fans/yaoi fans propensity to call women in the works they enjoy misogynistic slurs like bitch. I really do think it’s insensitive to call any woman a slur but even moreso a rape victim.
Just like I thought it was uncalled for and nasty for people to call Hyesung a bitch for not returning dojun’s feeling despite having been assaulted by him in the OG story.

Maybe it’s because I work with victims of sexual assault and I know the weight and use that word carry, regardless of their good or bad actions.

You dont have to justify her actions brw. Regardless of how you feel, victims of sexual assault such as Hyesung’s mother, sometimes do not take the best actions due to their own trauma.

what’s redeemable for a victim like her honestly ? And why is the onus not more on her and hyesung’s abuser ? (Those are just my musings, I’m not attacking you and your opinion).

I guess we will see however in so far my understanding was not that she was trying to fix her relationship with Hyesung (I think for that to happen both him and her will have to confront their own trauma) but more to have a relationship with Byul. (If I’m wrong feel free to correct me).

All that to say that I’ve a lot of things to criticize about Love is an illusion works (specially when it comes to the use of sexual assault as development for a romantic relationship) but I believe that the portrayal of Hyesung’s mother as a victim is very honest and brutal which makes a lot of people passionate abt that whole arc.

Whether or not people use the word “bitch” really comes down to personal feelings about it. From what I’ve seen, most of the people using it in this comment section seem to be women (though I haven’t specifically checked for comments with that word), so ultimately it’s a matter of personal morals and comfort.

Your opinion on the word “bitch” is definitely valid. Some women use it casually and as a universal term, while others see it as degrading toward women and refuse to use it. Everyone’s upbringing and experiences shape how they feel about the word, so perspectives will naturally differ. It’s similar to how some women (especially men) use the word “female” instead of the grammatically correct term “woman.” It really depends on what you grew up hearing and what feels natural to you.

In my opinion, the reason why people are talking about her and not the abuser is simply because he is no longer in the picture. I honestly forgot what happened to him, and I forgot about the mother too until they brought her back.

I’m not sure if she wants to have a relationship with Hyesung, but I do feel it is incredibly disrespectful to form a relationship with Byul considering that Hyesung wants nothing to do with her. This is especially personal to me since I’ve gone no contact with family members, and the idea of them contacting my kids genuinely infuriates me (simply my opinion, others may disagree).

I also think it’s very brutal and honest, and I think a lot of people relate to Hyesung which is why everyone feels pretty personal about it.