I think if I were in Hyesungs place, I would feel really betrayed. I’ve been reading the comments and I have a few thoughts.
1. If my grandma abandoned my mother, I personally wouldn’t want a relationship with her. But that’s not the case for everyone. Byul wanted to get to know his grandmother but didn’t bother to hear his mother’s side of the story or to understand what he went through when his mother abandoned him and left him with an abusive man.
2. I’ve seen comments saying that they feel bad for Hyesungs mother and what she went through. I agree. I am empathic towards her because at the end of the day, she was abused. However, it was careless and irresponsible as a mother to leave a child - YOUR OWN CHILD- with the same man you endured so much abuse. She could have taken him to an orphanage. She could have taken him with her and started a new life. She may have been a victim but what she did- abandoning her own child and restarting her life like he didn’t exist is horrible. She may not have wanted to have him and I think that’s fair but when you are an adult. When you take care of a child for years, unlike Hyseung who left for two months post-parting, leaving a child in an unsafe home is not forgivable in my opinion.
3. I think Byul is valid for feeling the way he does…in a sense. He’s a kid who found out he was not a wanted planned pregnancy will probably have a lot of mixed feelings. But I also thinks it’s really unfair of him to say his mother and grandmother are the same when in reality there are so many differences. He grew up with love, support, and stability. Something that his mother never got from his parents.
4. Dojin irritates me
5. I hope Hyesung doesn’t easily forgive them. At least not Dojin. Ughhh I guess what I mean is I hope he’s not forced to forgive his mother. I think it’s more realistic to have him continue no contact with his mom rather than forgive her and start having a relationship with her
I think if I were in Hyesungs place, I would feel really betrayed. I’ve been reading the comments and I have a few thoughts.
1. If my grandma abandoned my mother, I personally wouldn’t want a relationship with her. But that’s not the case for everyone. Byul wanted to get to know his grandmother but didn’t bother to hear his mother’s side of the story or to understand what he went through when his mother abandoned him and left him with an abusive man.
2. I’ve seen comments saying that they feel bad for Hyesungs mother and what she went through. I agree. I am empathic towards her because at the end of the day, she was abused. However, it was careless and irresponsible as a mother to leave a child - YOUR OWN CHILD- with the same man you endured so much abuse. She could have taken him to an orphanage. She could have taken him with her and started a new life. She may have been a victim but what she did- abandoning her own child and restarting her life like he didn’t exist is horrible. She may not have wanted to have him and I think that’s fair but when you are an adult. When you take care of a child for years, unlike Hyseung who left for two months post-parting, leaving a child in an unsafe home is not forgivable in my opinion.
3. I think Byul is valid for feeling the way he does…in a sense. He’s a kid who found out he was not a wanted planned pregnancy will probably have a lot of mixed feelings. But I also thinks it’s really unfair of him to say his mother and grandmother are the same when in reality there are so many differences. He grew up with love, support, and stability. Something that his mother never got from his parents.
4. Dojin irritates me
5. I hope Hyesung doesn’t easily forgive them. At least not Dojin. Ughhh I guess what I mean is I hope he’s not forced to forgive his mother. I think it’s more realistic to have him continue no contact with his mom rather than forgive her and start having a relationship with her