hi im 19 years old! i TOTES get where ur coming from and i feel like a big part of the reason is that the current society deems everything relating to vulnerability “cringe”. some people don’t want to open up to others because they’re scared of how they’ll be perceived. on the other hand a lot of people nowadays only care abt increasing their “followers” on social media rather than building genuine connections. people don’t want to be inconvenienced by being placed with certain expectations from friends or communities. they’re selfish and misplace the meaning of “setting boundaries”. the truth is they don’t care which is why u will find people that are simply impossible to get close to. honestly there’s TONS of layers to this and i cld go in a whole rant, but these are the main things that stand out the most to me!!
I’m also 19, and I agree as well. It’s hard to make friends with an actual genuine connection… everything feels so shallow and fake nowadays.
to second earlier commentors yeah we're regressing as a society the rise of cringe "bros yapping" culture and the death of empathy either a) make friendships transactional, when the only important quality in a friend is what they can give you and/or b) make friendships completely surface-level because to trust means to open yourself up to being attacked. its always been harder to make friends as an adult (forced proximity from school is a great catalyst to form connections that have the potential to deepen) but its become a lot harder with the resurgence of severe bullying for any social misstep.
commenting bc im also 19
A few months ago, I asked you guys. What’s going on with human connections. Why does it seem that no matter how hard one try nothing genuine seems to be building between people or even communities.
A lot commented oh it’s just the people around you or I got comments like it may be a more personal issue in which I might not be opening myself truly.
But here comes this… after months of asking myself this, and opening myself to others in ways that were suggested and ofc I see therapist so I got good tactics. I ended up here, still like what’s going on ? Why aren’t adults not opening themselves, why aren’t adults not allowing themselves to be vulnerable. And why has most of the American population gone back to “trust issues” being something said and the excuse of having to keep people away from them.
I say adults because I’m over the age 21, and i can’t really like ask younger ones, what’s it’s like for them because ofc I’m living in a whole different world than them.
But tell me, is it hard for you to open to new people, is it hard for you to express hey I want to be your friend. Do you don’t yourself not being able to make long term friends ?