I've been into BL since the mid-early 2000s. it all seems like a blur to me now, but the first ones I remember are "Okane Ga Nai (No Money)"; "Junjo Romantica"; "Seitokaichou Ni Chuukoku (Hey, Class President)"; and "Koisuru Bokun (The Tyrant Falls In Love)"
mine was the novel, grandmaster of demon cultivation aka “the untamed”