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i'm really happy to see shinwoo slowly open up as I finished the story!! ╥﹏╥ i definitely cried a lot whenever he had thoughts of withdrawing from their relationship. it’s his way of protecting himself.
after finishing it, I wished we could’ve seen han’s backstory too, to understand why he’s afraid of being abandoned. I’m also so happy to see Han become more mature and empathetic, learning to swallow his pride and set aside his selfishness.
shinwoo is such a pmo bro because he reminds me so much of myself HAHAHA. it took me long enough to process this. TMI, sorry to those who’ll be reading this. I don’t exactly share the same story as him, but I also have that avoidant attachment.
it feels too close to home whenever he breaks down, and I just want to give him a hug. it honestly sucks. i probably developed mine because of my “divorced” family too. it’s that same idea that people eventually come and go, so your brain starts preparing for it ahead of time as a form of protection.
people with avoidant attachment usually struggle with opening up or depending on others. we value independence so much that it becomes hard to trust or stay emotionally close, even when we want to. it’s a defense mechanism, something your mind builds to avoid getting hurt again.
i’ve had some relationships where I ended up self-sabotaging, like being stuck in a loop. but j've been working on it, learning to communicate more, to let people in little by little, and to remind myself that not everyone leaves.