unfortunately, as an anxious attachment style due to trauma as well, i get it. i haven't been in a relationship in 4 years as i fr realised i was being v toxic & j generally mentally unwell in my last relationship, so i decided to focus on myself. it's going well now, but whenever any hint of a relationship appears again, i get really screwed over
anyways, this read was frustrating, but all i could do was scratch my head because it'd be hypocritical of me since i knew exactly where & how these thoughts come from. they're irrational, unhealthy, terrible, & that's j what anxiety does to you, esp. if it's linked so closely to a specific type of relationship (i have a lot of trauma around romance from seeing the horrible relationships around me)
in that sense, i believe this read was actually v realistic. it's not j some misunderstanding/miscommunication trope or a shallow package of mentally unwell relationships. both minor & major details in the story point to quite a clear direction of the anxious attachment style, & i think it was executed very well, though the ending felt a little sudden... though anxiety can work like that too sometimes. outside of relationships, sometimes it takes j a burst to clear it all up, & suddenly breathing is easier again
again, i do find this to be a frustrating & at some points, irritating read, but i do resonate with a lot of it. i hope the author is doing well though. to be able to write something that feels like this... as a former fanfic author myself, i can say it's a horrible experience to pour in emotions like these into stories, esp. when you're trying to catch all the perspectives too
unfortunately, as an anxious attachment style due to trauma as well, i get it. i haven't been in a relationship in 4 years as i fr realised i was being v toxic & j generally mentally unwell in my last relationship, so i decided to focus on myself. it's going well now, but whenever any hint of a relationship appears again, i get really screwed over
anyways, this read was frustrating, but all i could do was scratch my head because it'd be hypocritical of me since i knew exactly where & how these thoughts come from. they're irrational, unhealthy, terrible, & that's j what anxiety does to you, esp. if it's linked so closely to a specific type of relationship (i have a lot of trauma around romance from seeing the horrible relationships around me)
in that sense, i believe this read was actually v realistic. it's not j some misunderstanding/miscommunication trope or a shallow package of mentally unwell relationships. both minor & major details in the story point to quite a clear direction of the anxious attachment style, & i think it was executed very well, though the ending felt a little sudden... though anxiety can work like that too sometimes. outside of relationships, sometimes it takes j a burst to clear it all up, & suddenly breathing is easier again
again, i do find this to be a frustrating & at some points, irritating read, but i do resonate with a lot of it. i hope the author is doing well though. to be able to write something that feels like this... as a former fanfic author myself, i can say it's a horrible experience to pour in emotions like these into stories, esp. when you're trying to catch all the perspectives too