Clearly you didn’t fully understand what I said when I said it DOESNT mean his behavior is excusable but it will give her an understanding of why he did what he did. And knowing she is still in love with him after all the this time means she will either choose to walk away OR she is willing to connect with him again because she knows he isn’t a bad person just a person who made bad decisions because they were scared and had little control over their life. Why would he reach out throughout the ten years? He knows he fucked up and can’t get that back so ofc he’s going to shove those feelings down. And now that they’ve met again coincidentally it surges all those unsaid feelings and thoughts for both of them. BUT she is the one who approached him wanting to know more, she is actively trying to connect with him.

I get how trauma works. but your trauma is no reason for you to treat someone wrongly. if anything, okay fine he did what he did because there was no other possible way that he could've seen. BUT right now after so much time, still not making things right IS NOT AN EXCUSE. I am sorry but anyone who thinks that it takes long time and stuff even in adulthood is actually just escaping their wrongs