Imagine your entire world view, how you are treated, how your body and your choices change overnight. And how confusing and upsetting that the role you are forced into is so hated, susceptible to violence and discrimination, and just seem as lesser than compared to the more "respectable" and strong, decision making and taking one you had previously just swap like that! I am not saying alphas/males are all that, but it is true they ᴰᴼ have more privileges, not earned but sedimented a long time ago, and you have to do ᴬᴸᴸ you can try to just be on pair if at all, because unfortunately in the abo universe, your body makes you "crave sex" and puts you in VERY dangerous and non consentual situations :/ where your mind is in a haze and your body is feverish and sickly... While others from the opposite sex try to rape you and brutalize you :/
this is a bleak universe where I don't see romance actually happening as they try to portray, but victims coping and detaching hard, trying to rationalize and just like in our world, when victims are blamed and told to shut up or suck it up because it's "shameful" or whatever bs they say. Anyways, as a survivor or SA and part of the big % who have unfortunately have had a contact with a ll this, which isn't uncommon whether you are a woman or a man, and worse if you don't fit in those metrics, I think I can be bitter and spam about such topic with a critical view of such works.
That doesn't mean I will stop reading, nor am I saying it's all wrong, just my thoughts and trying to create a constructive debate :) have a nice day yall!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, and I’m really sorry that you had to experience something as painful as SA. No one deserves that, ever. I completely understand why topics like this can hit hard, especially in ABO settings where the power imbalance and lack of consent are so deeply built into the world.
I also want to clarify that my original comment wasn’t meant to downplay or overlook the SA aspect at all. I was responding specifically to how the author portrayed Juhyeok and Su-ah’s relationship dynamic—how Juhyeok’s childhood expectations compare to the way he treats Su-ah now. My focus was on their emotional history, not on excusing or dismissing any of the harmful elements of the ABO world.
Personally, I see ABO as a mix of human and animal instincts, so I don’t interpret those parts the same way I would in a real-life situation where actual instinctual triggers don’t exist. But that doesn’t mean I ignore the darker implications—it just means my comment was only addressing the emotional behavior between the characters, not the SA theme itself.
I really appreciate you opening up and bringing a more critical perspective to the discussion. I hope you’re doing okay, and thank you again for sharing.
I don’t know if it’s his ego or his pride, but that seems to be why Juhyeok keeps pushing Su-ah away. In their childhood flashbacks, he basically ‘proposed’ to Su-ah because he believed he would be the alpha and Su-ah the omega. And yes, what Su-ah did was questionable, but that one moment doesn’t define him. He cared for Juhyeok so deeply that he endured being pushed away again and again, even when Juhyeok kept throwing hurtful words at him.