Is adorable in theory but I had a bf like him and after a while it gets really frustrating that you have to explain everything including things that are embarrassing or frustrating and trying to leave to cool down gets challenged because they can’t understand why you need to calm down after a “discussion” that was actually an argument. They also tend to ask for really specific and unrealistic things since to them, they think it’s doable but for most people it’s not. I say this as a neurodivergent myself. It’s adorable and sweet how straightforward he is and how prepared he likes to be beforehand but it can always flip into he won’t do anything without being properly prepared first and that he says things that are horrific to hear just because he doesn’t understand that the context sounds bad… like the divorce thing he said. To him, that was a valid point of discussion and something they should probably discuss as a “just in case” in order to have less issues later when they have kids. However, to everyone else, he answered a rhetorical sarcastic remark positively saying that he would consider divorce should it come up. That’s a horrifying thing to say while on the flight to your honeymoon destination. It actually jinxes your whole marriage. It doesn’t seem like a huge deal right now but when it’s happening every single day and you can’t get mad at it because it’s a mental condition that makes them like that and they aren’t doing it to be a mean person, it’s exhausting and not many people can put up with that type of stuff. If he can learn and implement what he learns and if he can understand that an angry and frustrated partner shouldn’t be questioned so matter-of-factly and the first order of business should be to deescalate the situation, they can have a really productive marriage. Unfortunately, my ex did not learn and would poke the already sore spot to get more answers. My point is, don’t rush into a relationship without fully understanding what your limits are and what you can and cannot handle. It will just breed resentment if you can’t be honest with yourself about what you’re capable of and what you’re not.
Is adorable in theory but I had a bf like him and after a while it gets really frustrating that you have to explain everything including things that are embarrassing or frustrating and trying to leave to cool down gets challenged because they can’t understand why you need to calm down after a “discussion” that was actually an argument. They also tend to ask for really specific and unrealistic things since to them, they think it’s doable but for most people it’s not. I say this as a neurodivergent myself. It’s adorable and sweet how straightforward he is and how prepared he likes to be beforehand but it can always flip into he won’t do anything without being properly prepared first and that he says things that are horrific to hear just because he doesn’t understand that the context sounds bad… like the divorce thing he said. To him, that was a valid point of discussion and something they should probably discuss as a “just in case” in order to have less issues later when they have kids. However, to everyone else, he answered a rhetorical sarcastic remark positively saying that he would consider divorce should it come up. That’s a horrifying thing to say while on the flight to your honeymoon destination. It actually jinxes your whole marriage. It doesn’t seem like a huge deal right now but when it’s happening every single day and you can’t get mad at it because it’s a mental condition that makes them like that and they aren’t doing it to be a mean person, it’s exhausting and not many people can put up with that type of stuff. If he can learn and implement what he learns and if he can understand that an angry and frustrated partner shouldn’t be questioned so matter-of-factly and the first order of business should be to deescalate the situation, they can have a really productive marriage. Unfortunately, my ex did not learn and would poke the already sore spot to get more answers. My point is, don’t rush into a relationship without fully understanding what your limits are and what you can and cannot handle. It will just breed resentment if you can’t be honest with yourself about what you’re capable of and what you’re not.