I just always find it a bit unsavoury when people just get together and immediately do it. Makes it seem as if the relationship is just some established understanding that you two can now have sex whenever one of you wants it with one another whenever you want. I am sure many won't understand this, but I personally know from psychological studies that it slowly building up physical intimacy levels over time, while spending quality time actually correlated with quality relationship. You learn to relate to one another on more levels than just physical. You deeply know one another and with each onion layer you peel off of each others person, you also inch a bit closer in terms of physical intimacy and things feel right. And once you two truly understand each other and love one another for who you are, accepting one another and deeply deciding to commit to this person and then you do it...well that is what they call earth shattering sex. As if your souls are merging or something. So like they literally barely know each other, just have attraction and a love based on what they got to know so far and already they go to bed 5 second after confirming they are now in a relationship haha...
I just always find it a bit unsavoury when people just get together and immediately do it. Makes it seem as if the relationship is just some established understanding that you two can now have sex whenever one of you wants it with one another whenever you want. I am sure many won't understand this, but I personally know from psychological studies that it slowly building up physical intimacy levels over time, while spending quality time actually correlated with quality relationship. You learn to relate to one another on more levels than just physical. You deeply know one another and with each onion layer you peel off of each others person, you also inch a bit closer in terms of physical intimacy and things feel right. And once you two truly understand each other and love one another for who you are, accepting one another and deeply deciding to commit to this person and then you do it...well that is what they call earth shattering sex. As if your souls are merging or something. So like they literally barely know each other, just have attraction and a love based on what they got to know so far and already they go to bed 5 second after confirming they are now in a relationship haha...