Can someone explain

I was like why isnt thus under yaoi cause I think

yaoi is made by and for women while bara is made by and for gay men

yaoi is by and for women, its why its full of rape.
bara is by and for gay men, the male characters look like men or ideal men.

I'll always hate how some of you think yaoi is sooooo awful because women write it but bara is the holy grail that does nothing wrong ever because its made by gay dudes. Literally just read bara and you'll quickly find out that there's so much weird shit that you swear up and down only yaoi has.