"The uke slipped away from his hand" : the uke is not a thing, he's a human being, and he is free to live however he wants and with whom he wants. Uke has been abused when he was a child, the last thing he needs is more abuse, and that's what the seme does : he adds more abuses, and in real life it wouldn't work well, therapy would be more effective.
All seme does it's for his own benefits, he clearly doesn't care about what the uke wants : he can't even go to work without seme's approval : that's fucking abusive !
Maybe they are not meant to be together, uke needs someone very patient and who truly cares about him; seme needs someone he can control completely (like any abuser).
Their relation is so unhealthy, and justify it by something like :"uke needs to be treated like a shit because patience and kindness didn't overcome his trauma quicly enough" is awful.
Uke has a trauma and he needs therapy not being controled by a psycho, for fuck sake. And if this is the real seme's personality, I suggest him to go to a therapist too before it's too late.
I don't see any problem with the seme. He's the wolf from the beginning. Both of them had so many misunderstanding in the past. the seme was playing "the good guy" because he's trying to protect uke. The method he used to him has no longer works. The uke slipped away from his hand. He had enough of playing a good guy and yet the result more worst. This is the real him. The pushover seme has made uke's negativity thought away. The seme has made it clear of all his actions and feelings so the uke never doubt. If he still acts like a cutie pie seme, he'll lose the uke and their relationship will not go anywhere. from slow progress to nothing.