
Whether people like it or not, Hojun didnāt look comfortable in that scene tbh. I donāt think a 3p should happen if one of them is hesitant to do it. He didnāt seem that happy seeing Mr. Ahn kiss his ex at the end. At this point, it feels like NTR rather than a consensual threesome. Thatās probably why people arenāt too happy with it.

To be fair, they said it in proper sentences without any emojis and lots of people equate that to being serious. From my experience, (and Iāve been accused plenty of having no chill when Iām not at all mad) itās the way that it was written that made it easy to misconstrue. Short and blunt. If it was typed like this: speak for urself haha , itās easy to see they were joking lightheartedly in contrast to, āSpeak for yourself.ā

It's depressing that in order for people to understand something as a joke you either have to use emojies which I can't use on my laptop and always look kind of off putting or have to write a badly structured sentence.
It should go without saying that "Speak for yourself" as a response to many people not liking 3p was meant the way I meant it.
It's also kind of ironic that I'm blamed for not being obvious enough when I got the response "Gosh, are you triggered? Lmaoooo" which was obviously meant as an insult and not a serious question.

I got used to it, honestly. You dunno how many times I had to point out my replies werenāt an attack towards their post. At some point, it dawned to me that having so many people mistaking my words meant that the fault lies with I wasnāt clear enough and I was just being stubborn with the way I structure my sentences. I had to change a couple of things so people could understand me. Nothing too dramatic, a simple lol or :] is fine.

So yeah. Presentation is important when you only have text to convey your meaning, like what the previous poster said. Itās not that big of a deal lol (see what I did there uwu), I mean badly structured sentences arenāt that bad. It portrays informal, casual speech. Speaking like this makes it feel like a debate, like Iām typing a term paper.

To me it feels normal and considering that many people here aren't native speakers, it's not helpful to write badly structured sentences. I've been misunderstood often enough even when I wrote a very informal post. People don't misunderstand your posts because they're not written clearly enough, they misunderstand because they expect a certain response and when your response doesn't fit their expectation they jump to conclusions on their own.
The amount of times I've been attacked by Trump supporters with completely unrelated sentences like "so you support Erdogan?!" simply because I think building a wall is way too expensive and not effective enough to justifies those costs (btw I don't even live in Turkey) is ridiculous.
I'm not going to give in to that kind behavior. And it doesn't matter whether it's political or only related to entertainment. If somebody jumps to conclusions on their own for no good reason then it's not your fault for not taking every single way of reading a post into account, that's impossible to do anyways. We have to learn to ask someone (properly) what they mean if we're not sure and not immediately go into attack mode.

Interesting, because it was the opposite effect for me. Changing my tone and speech made people a lot more friendly and never attacked me back. It doesnāt hurt to give in and help people understand what you mean even if itās as simple as writing informally. I havenāt had a proper heated debate or misunderstanding in a while. Clearly, weāve had different results. Something in your speech mustāve triggered them. Canāt help if I donāt know what you wrote after all.
wtf were those raws...I refuse to believe that nooo make it stopppplp