Ok, I do this to my bf and I even try pushing him with my hands to the point he asked if I was ok...and I was I was just fucking shy but still very horny.
I couldn’t help myself but that’s why people can use safe words, even for vanilla shit.
Ooof, I mean I understand being shy but that really does give such mixed signals. I'm happy that he asked to make sure, but I 100% that a safeword in general is a really good idea, especially if you are a really shy person who often says no so then they can tell the difference between shyness and genuinely not consenting
I know! He’s great But, in all honesty I didn’t even realize I do it or that I was even trying to hold his hands away (im also ticklish) so he was just like wait...is this ok? I was so embarrassed.
Man, I totally relate to hen now
Ok the thing I've always hated in yaoi is when something clearly is not rape but the uke is saying "no, don't" repeatedly like they don't actually want it even though they do- it makes it feel rapey and makes actual rape seem okay bc you can barely tell the difference between if they want it or not and I'm sure to an actual loving bf that must be super annoying or concerning. BLESS IVAN FOR SAYING SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Also hen is the cutest thing ever and I would die for him.