Its sad like i mean at the start of this I felt like I related to Jeonghan, with me being anxious and introverted and I can admit im a coward but hes just asking for all this stress. I mean why did he run away, that aint gonna solve a ang thing, this manga has just turned into a pity party for that guy and although hes cute hes stupid by thinking runing away will fix everything and complaining about it when a promblem comes.
I felt like their 8-year relationship could’ve been fixed through talking it out like mature adults. The lack of communication and poor taste in men was the story’s and ukes major downfall.
Communication is not a one-way thing. It goes both ways. Yes, Jeonghan first tried to keep the relationship going by doing whatever Kangwoo wanted or seemed to want instead of asking him what he wants and telling him how he feels. But then, Kangwoo didn't do anything either. He never bothered to ask Jeonghan how he felt even at times when he could see that Jeonghan was in pain. Jeonghan at least has the excuse that he is scared of people abandoning him the way his family did. What is Kangwoo's excuse? Also, I wouldn't call this running away. If it didn't work for 8 years, it's not going to magically start working now. Also, 8 years is a long time. After trying to one-sidedly hold up a relationship, he's just tired.
8 years is a long time. If this were a heterosexual relationship and the guy (or girl) kept the relationship a secret from everyone including his friends, siblings and co-workers and didn't seem to be interested in progressing it further, the other person, say the girl, would be well within their rights to think that the guy is not serious about the relationship and is just whiling away his time until he settles down with someone else. 3 to 4 years is the max that you can be in a serious relationship and not introduce a person to your family. If at 8, he still hasn't even acknowledged that he is in a gay relationship and feels the need to hide it from everyone, then there are major problems. No amount of communication can salvage that relationship at this point.
I never stated otherwise. That’s why I said they both should’ve just communicated about their true feelings like mature adults. Clear up misunderstandings in the air and sort out any issues. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy nor impossible, but I’m not going to base off of how things will turn out for a relationship through assumptions alone; and that one can’t change or grow from their mistakes due to a couple of examples.
I'm shocked by the support for Kangwoo. I really don't get it. He was dating a guy but never acknowledged that. When someone asked if they were dating, he said it was "Disgusting" right in front of Jeonghan. How is that supposed to make Jeonghan feel? When Jeonghan's family disowned him, his friend was hugging him and comforting him while Kangwoo was just standing there like a moron. He provided zero emotional support in that relationship. While Jeonghan was wrong to hide all his discomfort and hurt from Kangwoo, it's also true that Kangwoo chose to turn a blind eye to all of that. He was very careful to make sure no one would ever doubt that he was dating a man, keeping a distance when outside and not acknowledging it with any of his friends or family. It's pretty much like Jeonghan was the only one really committed to the relationship. Even at this point, when they have broken up and he's trying to get him to reconcile, Kangwoo doesn't have the guts to tell his brother than he and Jeonghan were dating for 8 years. He's a wuss and doesn't deserve anything.
Having said that, Gyu-Tae is also a non-self-aware abusive guy. Jeonghan has bad taste.