Anyone else feel like this?

I blame it on this bl

i think its just that u want a very dom partner, not weird

ngl i have the cause end of it, not in a serious way- but like maybe roleplay? Where my partner fears me or smth... It sounds kinda fucked tho so I don't express it, but like end goal is cuddles n shit, but during sex some kinky spooky shit would be nice. I also am a dom in BDSM so maybe it has to do w that. idk, lol. but I blame it on all these horror BL's I read, or adult horror gay novels haha, cant get enough smh

Hm more than likely, tho I am just exploring so I'm not well educated on subs and dom

There are many kinks and as long as everything is consensual it is fun to mess around in the bedroom!
There are rape role plays that are consensual but are very forceful? A feat example is harada’s Henai Maktoko-hen.

I believe bdsm can be scary as depending on how hardcore you are, you have full control over someone else’s body or they have full control over yours. These all take trust and ALWAYS use safe words even for regular sex.

Your partner could put a mask on and there could be role plays, there’s bondage, etc. never be scared to being something up as experimenting can help spice up the bedroom. If your partner is more conservative about sexual things there are always middle grounds.

That sounds interesting tho I wouldn't even know how to go about the whole role-play bc I wouldn't want to be scared by my partner, (not that I think there's a anything wrong with your kink) I would want something else to drive my fear yk? Also hope this isn't invasive but I would like to know what it's like to be a Dom.
Btw could you give me a list of the horror BLs you've read plz

Wow.I really appreciate the explanation like a lot

Very true!! My partner and I have done mostly just rigging (tieing up or harnesses) and pleasure torture, like edging, and pain pleasure, not going to explain too much for the sake of TMI haha, but I think introducing a blind fold and such could be very interesting. Though I am not sure if my partner is into the idea of being "fearful" per say, I would have to talk that over with them haha. but they are very submissive and up for many ideas so I think it will be a good convo to have!

Definitely! I think if you both talk about things and do things with an open mind, you’ll find things you’re into that you never realized before. I feel as if people are too shy or embarrassed to talk about these things, but I feel it’s very important! Good for you and your partner though! I’m glad you guys talk these things out it seems like you guys have a very healthy relationship. I’m sure if you talk about it, things will be fine. You guys seem to be pretty open.

Oh yeah I completely understand! It is all about preference and what a person can deal with and consent to. There must always be full consent and care put into these sex acts. As I and my partner always make sure to have safe words / safe gestures to signal when we need a break or to stop.
-and as for my list, I would have to look them up since most of the horror ones I have read on other sites, but ones I have read that are on here and I can recommend rn are Warehouse, Blood Sacrifice (not listed as horror but it has a nice dark vibe), Interview with a Murderer, Bentham, Fruit of the Tongue, Blood Bank (not horror, but vampires and very kinky)h
Warning as some of these have super dark messed up themes, not all I agree with, but more so read for the messed up themes they have for the psychological aspect, but if you have triggers relating to abuse, rape, death, etc, I would proceed with caution!!!
as for a novel I read that is a good ass read, though not horror- more so psychological, is Captive Prince. It's a historical gay romance, about a prince who becomes the slave to another prince who is his enemy, but the ending is good. Others I will have to look up the names for much like the BL.

as for being a dom, it's a lot of work I will say. I see my job as giving as much pleasure and enjoyment as possible to my partner. To make them completely enveloped by the mood and my actions towards them. It takes time to learn certain small actions that will cause a built-up reaction for them, and to give the most satisfying- end results. but overall, it is very rewarding as it makes our bond very strong, and my partner puts their full trust into me as I have my way with them as they are bound and helpless. They enjoy that aspect of it, being completely defenseless and at my mercy, while I enjoy being given that honor, and to see their reactions to my acts. In the end though, we usually cuddle and sleep or watch a movie or memes haha. I wish to introduce more flavors of our kinks into our mature play, and to become even bonded with them. Overall though- see it as like being the lead actor in a play. You have to be the decider and the leader, the thing your partner will focus on completely for their pleasure. I find that doing a lot of teasing and build-up makes the end of the act much more fulfilling and satisfactory.

Hope my words gave some nice input! I will update you when I find my other BL's and such, as I know some of the ones I have read off site are much more dark, if that's what you would like, but hope the ones I listed give you enjoyment as well!

Okay, I really just want to say Thank you. I didn't expect such a well written response or response at all. I really appreciate you for talking to me about your role as dom. I've never experienced any form of Bdsm so explanations like yours and Chocolate's really help me out, I often feel like I'm being mislead when these types of things are being explained to me( I don't get my kink education exclusively on mangago) especially when there's zero mention of the partners wellness. With the way you do things I feel like I could be a dom and sub ( I'm not sure if that's a thing tho I guess it could be) bc I like to pay attention to details and I also like when the same is done for me. Idk I'm just really grateful and I'm also sorry for not asking if it was okay to ask about your role.


And yes I would like the darker stuff when you find it. Tysm

Of course man!!! It's a huge importance to me to educate others on sexuality and safety in sex. Also being a switch in Dom or Sub roles is not weird at all! and usually it gives you more opportunity to find parters since you can do either. Plus being able to enjoy both sides of the coin is a gift! Unfortunately for me, being a sub would bring me immense dysphoria, as I am a trans Male, and such acts would discomfort me, but none the less my partner fully understands and respects that even though they are sorta a switch, they prefer sub roles though ! but anyways- if you have any other questions, don't be afraid to ask! I love to help others out and to help inform them on safe practices and such, so best of luck to you and your experiences!

Aw thank you! and yes we both have a very great trusting relationship, which is why we are into this kink in the first place, as we are comfortable with each other. We always make sure to talk about these things in deep detail before going through with it, to make sure we both are fully into it and such. Despite me being a dom though, I tend to be very shy and anxious to ask things like such, but this gives me the courage to talk about these things in more depth with my partner, so thank you!