I think everyone is mad at Param because we all know we’re cheering for Hwi lol but there are also a few others out here who are literally calling Param a slut (which he isn’t) and saying he has done something “immorally wrong” by having sex with Han, which simply isn’t true. I think that’s what some people have an issue with - the folks who think having sex with others even though you’re not in a relationship is somehow morally wrong.
most comment I saw of people mad at param aren’t even calling him a slut or anything, I’m not mad at him cause I like hwi but cause he leaded him on, param is free to fuck whoever he wants, but in the moment he accepted to date hwi he simply shouldn’t have done it, official relationship or not it was disrespectful towards hwi feelings and his trust towards him, and for me this is not okay, let it be fiction or real life
I’m wondering what exactly you mean by saying “the moment he agreed to date Hwi” because I did not see such a moment ever? Hwi thought it himself that he simply asking Param out for a date and Param agreed to go out on a date with him on Sunday, but that doesn’t mean they’re dating. Unless you think “going out on a date” = “dating” then okay. I’m genuinely curious if this is a difference in dating cultures or some countries have different definitions of what dating means (I’m not arguing with you on anything! I’m simply curious).
I think this is a difference in views regarding relationship. From what I’ve been taught and experienced, if you’re not officially committed in a relationship and have not verbally confirmed with eachother we are now lovers or whatever you call it, you have no say in what the person you like does. I’ll feel really hurt and angry if the person I like goes to have sex with someone else, but I don’t have the right to go tell them that they shouldn’t have done that because we’re not dating and I can’t force them to pick me. They don’t owe me reciprocation of my feelings. I don’t find it disrespectful of my feelings at all because, if I was Hwi, I haven’t even confessed my feelings yet so how are they supposed to know I’m serious? I’ve only shown interest in them and someone else showed interest in them too so perhaps they’re still wavering. Just because I aggressively chase them doesn’t mean they have to consider my feelings and think about how I’d feel all the time. I’ll be sad as hell but I can only try harder to make them know I’m the best for them.
hwi question was “date me”, if they chose this wording in english trans sure it’s not a random choice, then param sent him a message right after to give him confirmation, call it dating call it going to a date u still take some sort of commitment with another person. And it’s an unwritten rule that if u accept to date someone even if it’s not official yet u not supposed to go screw around with other people. In my country there aren’t any strict dating rule but it’s to bare minimum to act with regards to the other person, in korea too where the story is set, if u someone asks u on a date that means they wanna get serious with u, it’s not something to take lightly, it’s a real commitment and if param feelings were still swinging u had to reject the date.
About Hwi he confessed already many times, in chapter 28 or something he literally told param he liked him, plus he sent him so many direct signals, param sure knew well about what hwi was feeling for him.
It’s important to put into account other people when u are not the only one involved, especially cause hwi wasn’t just a one night stand or a fuck buddy, him and param created a friendship bond, they intimate, they supposed to care about each other, so even if u have nothing official with that person, knowing their feelings for u, u supposed to at least respect and cherish those, especially after leading them on.
Also idk if the “aggressively chase” refers to hwi, but he was everything but aggressive until now, he always tried his best with param without pushing him (not like han did), param clearly leaded him on, while accepting his date or even before he never really been clear about how much his crush for han was still affecting him, until now their relationship was exclusive, so if param was still unsure he should have at least informed hwi about it, as being fair with someone u supposed to care about
I mean if I wanna get mad on param for what he did i’m free to get mad on him as much as I want, is it slut shaming? no, it isnt so let ppl think what they want omg