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I'm sorry but ts funny imagine breaking up beacuse you're looking at some comics it sounds like he's being jealous over a drawing of GAY people....that's weird, idk why did you even told him that it was unnecessary but he probably gonna forget about it

What you’re reading are explicit gay romance stories/comics…which really isn’t that crazy considering so many people read explicit books (see booktok or book reddit). I think it being a comic is what put ur bf off cuz it seems more pornographic (it technically is but more so). Unless ur restricting him from watching porn or reading explicit content (which would be weird restricting ur partner anyway) idk why it would be an issue. Also, there is no reason you would have to share every detail or any detail or a hobby or interest with anyone if you don’t want to

I tried explaining it’s just comics and not even I can under how can our relationship end over something like that, I had been with him almost 3 years and I kept it a secret but he kept on insisting I told him what the mangas were about when I told him it was romance 2 years ago he didn’t seem to believe it was all and yesterday he basically cornered me and made me tell him, it’s so weird idk I wasn’t expecting us to break up over this

I don’t mind him reading explicit mangas/mane has either hetero or gl, I wouldn’t really like him looking at real ppl but what he told me was that he basically could look at other girls nudes and he didn’t want me to feel insecure about it, I tried explaining it’s just comics so I wouldn’t mind if he did the same with comics but it seems he wants to take it to looking at other people or even flirting to get nudes which I wouldn’t like at all, I’m just so confused about everything

Sounds like a weird take from your partner. Lots of movies have explicit scenes too, for example Outlander. Say you watch that…it’s not the equivalent of him watching OF. Sounds like he’s using it as an excuse

I mean to me it seems unreasonable to break up because you like to read explicit gay romance. A lot of women in relationships read smut just fine, I think it just becomes another story to men when imagery is involved. I wouldn’t mind if my partner read smut. It’s just like explicit movies where women in lingerie going to pound town every other scene.

right? I just think it’s such a weird correlation and to be honest it makes me feel so bad, I definitely don’t want him to watch OF and things like that but he doesn’t understand what I mean by just reading comics… I just don’t know how to explain it to him so we can work things out or if we’ll definitely break up over something so silly

If think the relationship is worth saving you can try to communicate and ask what problems he has with you reading exactly while treating what he wants to do (watch explicit content etc) as a separate issue.

I do think it’s harder to understand for men when it’s imagery just as you say, I feel like it is indeed unreasonable to break up over this and he’s thinking way over what I actually do. I think he’s getting so many bad ideas at the same time and now thinks I’m disgusting and I feel lost because it’s not really a big deal, what is a big deal to me is throwing 3 years away due to some silly gay romance comics which are not a menace to our relationship, I haven’t stopped crying since yesterday

thank you, i’ll try doing that so we can hopefully make amends, I’m not really thinking clearly at this time as I never even thought I’d tell him and much less we could potentially break up over it

Just make sure to put yourself first. Sunk cost fallacy: those 3 years should not stop you from leaving the relationship if you feel like he won’t put the effort in communicating and understanding you

First of all I don’t think that you’re a bad person in reading mangas. I hope with time that feeling goes away, I think that is due to your boyfriend’s reaction.
Idk your full history, but to me if a person insist in knowing everything you do sounds like someone wants to take control over you. I don’t see the need in wanting to know what your partner reads after 3 years. If he really wanted to know he could have done that earlier.
Personally it would bother me to see my partner seeing naked tits and such in front of me, but that can’t be avoided forever since there are ads and auch everywhere (even on fb). And is something that everyone enjoys at the end of the day, that doesn’t mean it will necessarely harm the relantionship. Noeone is an angel.
I would have understood your boyfriend getting upset, but is a bit too much to just go and end your relantion. He could have talked things out and come to an agreement.
If you want you could still talk to him once the waters cool down to see if he’s willing to make peace.

I think it just depends on the people, my ex literally homophobic, he called me psychopathic just because I like queer (went to gay bars etc) so I decided to not tell him my BL hobby.

But my current environment : partner, sibling, friends, all literally know I like BL. They just accepted it without complaining. The only fujoshi irl is my sister. My partner and my friends are all not into BL, but they surely know I read and watch BL. I think, if people really care about you, as long as your hobby isn't toxic or harming, they could accept it.

A renantionship in order to last will have obstacles no matter what. Wathever the outcome will be I wish is the best for you stay true to yourself and everything will be fine.

thank you so much, I know it’s silly it hearing I’m not a bad person due liking this makes me feel a little better :(
I’ll try taking things out, hopefully I can make him understand it’s just comics as I get he can be upset about it but I think he’s too upset and thinking things that are far different from the reality of my hobby…

I’m so happy you have that now

lol the rest of my reply didn’t save but I’m glad your family, partner and friends accept it because they care about you the only one that didn’t know was him because just like your ex he’s is quite homopobic sadly. I’ll do my best to explain things to him as I truly love him with all my heart but if he doesn’t accept it and is repulsed by me I guess I’ll have to move on and focus on myself until I find someone that gets me and understands it because they care about me even if they don’t share the same hobby as me

Just be a bit aware of his behavioir towards you. Because due to the guilt feeling you may change yourself in order to accomodate his needs. He needs to respect you and not beeing a demanding person. Over time you’ll just change for his sake, many do that.

I’ll do my best not to, honestly I don’t think I’ll be able to save us and I don’t plan on changing as I don’t feel I’m doing that wrong, but it’s still sad

*pats head* i feel your pain, but be strong :) try doing something you like that can help you think positive, not only negatively. Music, films, drawing, going for a walk. Remember things won’t stay like this forever.

My ex knew all abt my yaoi addiction and didn't care at all. Well...I mean he DID bully me (like friendly bullying) mercilessly and constantly for it, but that's kind of deserved I think.

Ur current guy sounds really pathetic and insecure if he's that bothered by you reading comics tbh. He's doing you a favor by letting u out if that relationship 100%

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/i_favor_the_villainess/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/tamen_di_gushi/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/handsome_girl_and_sheltered_girl/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/fragtime/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/eventually_i_will_become_yours/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/tadokoro_san/

Best friends

I think weak hero is pretty similar and it’s a really good webtoon!

Thank u sm

Pounding is also same

I'll read it thanksss :')

The boxer is pretty good

Ur an angel <33

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