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I feel like every author who write about BDSM actually never practiced it and didn't even try to do some research about it. Like, expect in some extreme case, two partner will never use BDSM as a way to talk about things that happens outside of their sexual relationship. It shouldn't be used to make one of the two people to talk about personal matter of things not related to sex at all. Do author know that communication can exist without sex involved ?