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I'm not supporting 17/20 year olds dating this is not what this comment is for. I just want the people throwing the word "grooming" around to chill. Not every age gap involves it, and just cause is dating someone younger does not mean it is. Just as much as the opposite is true. Someone younger is 100% capable of grooming someone older. The same is true for people of the same age.
Its not an age locked forbidden technique that magically people stop being capable of doing when their partner is an adult.
So yall throwing it around when so far the older dude has done nothing of the sort waters down the meaning. It's a serious accusation and a very serious thing to have happen to someone. I get that there is a very reasonable chance of a power dynamic problem to begin, but so far Mr. Future-Teacher has been very reasonable. (Ignoring the fact he just agreed to date a minor. I wish that we knew how close he was to being 18 cause personally if he's like a month or two away I wouldn't tweak as much) So if people could chill till we start seeing evidence of a problem that would be nice.
I also see this as a weird reservation people have, because the girl with the black haired best friend was riding that line way harder then the current couple is. There was also a bigger age gap. She was just super broken so I think people are giving a pass to what she did and their story; ultimately because it ended with the two saying they'd wait. (Except they literally were dating for months and doing the do before saying this but I digress)
Is it cause the second 2 have a more healthy mental state that yall are trying to find something cause of what this story has been so far? Either way please just chill on tossing grooming around until it's actually happening.