Alright, rather than a question, this is more of me getting something off my chest (he asked me to keep it a secret, so I can't tell my friends).
As the title says, I just got confessed to (F15). For the first time in my life. Now that's all fine and dandy, but the thing is, I have social anxiety. So when he added me to Snapchat at 01:00, I almost got a f*king heart attack. I prayed that he just added me for the convenience, because we're in the same class, but no.
The very minute that I added him, he pulled the "Hey" card. And as a girl of good upbringing, I obviously responded with a "Hello :)", y'know to ease the tension! Immediately after THAT, he pulled the "Can you keep a secret", and I saw MY LIFE flash before my eyes. I was f*cking SHAKING. My genius response?: "Yes?" (No wonder nobody had confessed to me before this).
My worst fears came true when he said: "I think I might like you"
Now keep in mind, I had rarely ever spoken to this kid. While he IS cute, I can barely even hold a conversation with my few female friends, and my worst fear is talking one-on-one with someone. Which is why, I tried my best to politely decline his offer, by simultaneously revealing some of these anxieties of mine, so that he wouldn't take it too personal.
To which he responded with the legendary: "It was just a joke anyways" (Please remember that he added me at 01:00, and responded to my texts immediately.)
I'm kinda ashamed to say this, but that lifted some of the pressure off my chest. At least that way, we could both live on, while pretending that this had never happend.
Please don't come at me with "You should have given him a chance." Personal experience has taught me, that it's not good to take huge steps, and getting a boyfriend is a serious matter (for me, at least.) It requires a lot of commitment, which I'm not able to muster at the moment.
I'm sorry for breaking your bubble. What im going to say might just be me overthinking, but the "Can you keep it a secret" is kind of a red flag. I understand that he might just be shy but it's still suspicious. I know a someone who was confessed to by a guy and also told her to keep it as a secret. The guy does like her but it turns out the guy already has a girlfriend and is cheating on his girlfriend with my friend.
He really might be genuine with his feelings. Test the waters first if its good and clear to go. Just be cautious my dear. Protect your heart!!! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Well fuck that dude. Don't let anyone guilt you into being in a relationship with them. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and I've known him for almost 9. When we first met we got along so well and he started to chase after me when I was a freshman in high school and he was a senior, but I just wasn't ready yet. He waited for 3 years (whoops) cause I kept running away (I was full of insecurities and I was just scared) and now were having our 5 year anniversary next week c:
Your feelings are VALID. You're only 15 so you have lots of time to find the right person for you. Remember to always put yourself first and if they can't respect that then they're not the one. Hope you feel better and I bet you're a lovely person ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
I'm sorry for breaking your bubble. What im going to say might just be me overthinking, but the "Can you keep it a secret" is kind of a red flag. I understand that he might just be shy but it's still suspicious... ✨Suujin
Yeah Ive seen a lot of guys message girls and compliment them and when they get rejected they respond with insults such as "you were ugly anyways" or "slut." Feel like its a defense mechanism for their damaged pride. In this case, it wasn't that extreme though. I have a bad history with fuckboys and my radar is going off for this dude.
I agree with suujin, the whole “can you keep a secret” is very suspicious and never ends well (from my own experience) don't feel guilty for rejecting him and don’t let anyone tell u that you should have given him a chance. at the end of the day it’s ur life and u make ur own choices. trust ur intuition and if you think you aren’t ready for a relationship don’t force yourself!
Hey I see you have social anxiety i do too but let me tell you nothing matters more than your mental health, if you wanna give him chance give him if you don't want to dont give it. It is totally up to you..take care of your health don't over think things.. （￣へ￣）
I'm sorry for breaking your bubble. What im going to say might just be me overthinking, but the "Can you keep it a secret" is kind of a red flag. I understand that he might just be shy but it's still suspicious... ✨Suujin
Hey I see you have social anxiety i do too but let me tell you nothing matters more than your mental health, if you wanna give him chance give him if you don't want to dont give it. It is totally up to you..tak... @Anonymous
Thank you for your concern. I'll make sure to not overstep my limits.
Alright, rather than a question, this is more of me getting something off my chest (he asked me to keep it a secret, so I can't tell my friends).
As the title says, I just got confessed to (F15). For the first time in my life. Now that's all fine and dandy, but the thing is, I have social anxiety. So when he added me to Snapchat at 01:00, I almost got a f*king heart attack. I prayed that he just added me for the convenience, because we're in the same class, but no.
The very minute that I added him, he pulled the "Hey" card. And as a girl of good upbringing, I obviously responded with a "Hello :)", y'know to ease the tension! Immediately after THAT, he pulled the "Can you keep a secret", and I saw MY LIFE flash before my eyes. I was f*cking SHAKING. My genius response?: "Yes?" (No wonder nobody had confessed to me before this).
My worst fears came true when he said:
"I think I might like you"
Now keep in mind, I had rarely ever spoken to this kid. While he IS cute, I can barely even hold a conversation with my few female friends, and my worst fear is talking one-on-one with someone. Which is why, I tried my best to politely decline his offer, by simultaneously revealing some of these anxieties of mine, so that he wouldn't take it too personal.
To which he responded with the legendary:
"It was just a joke anyways" (Please remember that he added me at 01:00, and responded to my texts immediately.)
I'm kinda ashamed to say this, but that lifted some of the pressure off my chest. At least that way, we could both live on, while pretending that this had never happend.
Please don't come at me with "You should have given him a chance." Personal experience has taught me, that it's not good to take huge steps, and getting a boyfriend is a serious matter (for me, at least.) It requires a lot of commitment, which I'm not able to muster at the moment.
(F*ck grammar. I'm having a panic attack.)
I'm sorry for breaking your bubble. What im going to say might just be me overthinking, but the "Can you keep it a secret" is kind of a red flag. I understand that he might just be shy but it's still suspicious. I know a someone who was confessed to by a guy and also told her to keep it as a secret. The guy does like her but it turns out the guy already has a girlfriend and is cheating on his girlfriend with my friend.
He really might be genuine with his feelings. Test the waters first if its good and clear to go. Just be cautious my dear. Protect your heart!!! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Well fuck that dude. Don't let anyone guilt you into being in a relationship with them. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and I've known him for almost 9. When we first met we got along so well and he started to chase after me when I was a freshman in high school and he was a senior, but I just wasn't ready yet. He waited for 3 years (whoops) cause I kept running away (I was full of insecurities and I was just scared) and now were having our 5 year anniversary next week c:
Your feelings are VALID. You're only 15 so you have lots of time to find the right person for you. Remember to always put yourself first and if they can't respect that then they're not the one. Hope you feel better and I bet you're a lovely person ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
he’s a pussy
Yeah Ive seen a lot of guys message girls and compliment them and when they get rejected they respond with insults such as "you were ugly anyways" or "slut." Feel like its a defense mechanism for their damaged pride. In this case, it wasn't that extreme though. I have a bad history with fuckboys and my radar is going off for this dude.
I agree with suujin, the whole “can you keep a secret” is very suspicious and never ends well (from my own experience) don't feel guilty for rejecting him and don’t let anyone tell u that you should have given him a chance. at the end of the day it’s ur life and u make ur own choices. trust ur intuition and if you think you aren’t ready for a relationship don’t force yourself!
Hey I see you have social anxiety i do too but let me tell you nothing matters more than your mental health, if you wanna give him chance give him if you don't want to dont give it. It is totally up to you..take care of your health don't over think things.. （￣へ￣）
Thank you so much! I'll keep that in mind.
Thank you for your concern. I'll make sure to not overstep my limits.