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Why must they voice their displeasure to how an adult chooses a partner? Isn’t it enough that they have someone who loves them? Is it that easy to find a good partner?
It’s so freaking simple to just listen, smile and tell your kid you can see that they’re happy and you like to see them happy. Even if you internally don’t understand/have social prejudices or what have you, as a parent you can and must work on things on your own and avoid adding unnecessary burdens/anxieties/pressure to your adult kid. Did they like getting pressured themselves? Break this damn cycle! because it really isn’t showing your care and love.
As parents of adult kids, you are no longer part of their day to day life- you’ll meet at most on holidays (if they have no plans/still like seeing you) and speak weekly/bi weekly/monthly or occasionally so why all this damn fuss!?
You can interact pleasantly with their SO even if you have reservations initially as long as son/daughter is not in any physical/mental/financial dangers with SO.