Me (24F) and my boyfriend (26M) have been together for 4 years, and our relationship is open with our families. I have some thoughts and need advice, but I can't share them with my friends because they’re personal and private, so I’m here anonymously. He’s my first boyfriend and my first in everything, and I’m a very conservative person when it comes to sexual activities. I’ve given him intimacy when he asks, but tonight, when I rejected him after he was drinking with his friends, he casually said, “Pa isa babe,” and I felt a little disrespected, especially since he said it with this emoji.
I told him, “Sorry if you’re upset, but I don’t like the way you said it.” He replied, “Okay ra.” I questioned his response because it didn’t seem sincere, so I asked, “So, are you upset?” He replied, “Depende na sa imo,” which I didn’t understand. Maybe I’m overthinking it, so I replied, “Ikaw man akong gipangutana?” to clarify if he got my point. His reply was, “Bahala ka diha.” I didn’t expect him to get angry over a simple question, but maybe it was because he was drunk. After that, I said, “Nasuko naman nuon ka,” and he responded with, “Kung unsay desisyon nimo, mao nana, ug ako na bahala sa akong sarili.”
Now I have so many questions: Is it wrong to reject him because of the way he asked casually, or am I overreacting to the way he said it?
What do you think I should do?
did sense of longing
