
Spoilers ahead: it's going to be lengthy.
It all began about 4-5 years back, tbh I always struggled with it. Interacting with people, I grew up alone ( my fam were all always away, so there was no one watching over me, I got used to it and well I hardly talked with anyone as a child so maybe that's also why?) However although I did struggle interacting with people, I could do well in taking leaderships over things, giving speeches in public, being a part of the student council, taking part in school activities where I had to interact with people were that much of a big deal.
But the issue started to get worse over time, like mentioned about 4-5 years back. Now even interactions with my family members, forget the others is hard for me. Idk why but I get depressed, I feel left out, like I'm the problem, out of place even to just talk with my family. Well it's not everyone luckily, I have a best friends and so far he's the only one with whom I got no issues. I have another best friend, but now I feel the same when I talk with her too, that feel of sadness being left out n everything.
Just starting a conversation or meeting up with people makes me really sad, I feel like crying, I feel unwanted and out of place. Tomorrow I'm going for a family gathering and guess what? I'm already depressed about that, I want to meet them but at the same time I don't want to. I really don't like feeling this way but I just can't help it, and at the end of the day, I can't even share how I feel with anyone because if I do I'll get all sad n stuff.
im bad at advicing, but i don't think your the problem at all. i think what you're feeling is honestly valid and understandable. some people will naturally feel the fear of interacting with others if they grow up alone and isolated, especially with family members. dw, u may see it as a flaw, but i see as ur defense mechanism. you want to make connections and interact, but afraid of getting hurt. it's good tho that u have someone that ure emotionally safe with. you don’t owe your full energy to everyone. focus first on nurturing one or two relationships that don’t drain you
Gurl....I get your feelling...it's similar as mine tho our situation is quite the opposite.
I used to be an extrovert but now, I don't evn feel like socialising. Family gatherings are like 'gatherin with strangers". I feel like I just can't fit in because the moment I enter the conversation they start bringing in some other topics like 'hello? I'm still here trying to blend in?'.
I live with my mom's sister and her childrens(bcoz my mom passed away when I was just 2months). They brought me up like I was their own but I still couldn't feel like I belong with them.
I also have a hard time opening up to them, share with them or have a proper conversation. And sometimes when everyone stays in one room to watch TV or any, i always look at my phone to avoid awkwardness.
Whenever they say somthing I'm like : hm, yes, okay, no.
I do have my close friend and bestie but I can't bring myself to tell them how I feel bcoz we literally live sooo freaking far away and with assignments pilled up, there's no time for long conversation :(
Am I the only one who wishes the ghost would be the ml?
Yesssss, he looks soo handsome like the daddy kind of type haha