Spoilers ahead: it's going to be lengthy.
It all began about 4-5 years back, tbh I always struggled with it. Interacting with people, I grew up alone ( my fam were all always away, so there was no one watching over me, I got used to it and well I hardly talked with anyone as a child so maybe that's also why?) However although I did struggle interacting with people, I could do well in taking leaderships over things, giving speeches in public, being a part of the student council, taking part in school activities where I had to interact with people were that much of a big deal.
But the issue started to get worse over time, like mentioned about 4-5 years back. Now even interactions with my family members, forget the others is hard for me. Idk why but I get depressed, I feel left out, like I'm the problem, out of place even to just talk with my family. Well it's not everyone luckily, I have a best friends and so far he's the only one with whom I got no issues. I have another best friend, but now I feel the same when I talk with her too, that feel of sadness being left out n everything.
Just starting a conversation or meeting up with people makes me really sad, I feel like crying, I feel unwanted and out of place. Tomorrow I'm going for a family gathering and guess what? I'm already depressed about that, I want to meet them but at the same time I don't want to. I really don't like feeling this way but I just can't help it, and at the end of the day, I can't even share how I feel with anyone because if I do I'll get all sad n stuff.
im bad at advicing, but i don't think your the problem at all. i think what you're feeling is honestly valid and understandable. some people will naturally feel the fear of interacting with others if they grow up alone and isolated, especially with family members. dw, u may see it as a flaw, but i see as ur defense mechanism. you want to make connections and interact, but afraid of getting hurt. it's good tho that u have someone that ure emotionally safe with. you don’t owe your full energy to everyone. focus first on nurturing one or two relationships that don’t drain you
Gurl....I get your feelling...it's similar as mine tho our situation is quite the opposite.
I used to be an extrovert but now, I don't evn feel like socialising. Family gatherings are like 'gatherin with strangers". I feel like I just can't fit in because the moment I enter the conversation they start bringing in some other topics like 'hello? I'm still here trying to blend in?'.
I live with my mom's sister and her childrens(bcoz my mom passed away when I was just 2months). They brought me up like I was their own but I still couldn't feel like I belong with them.
I also have a hard time opening up to them, share with them or have a proper conversation. And sometimes when everyone stays in one room to watch TV or any, i always look at my phone to avoid awkwardness.
Whenever they say somthing I'm like : hm, yes, okay, no.
I do have my close friend and bestie but I can't bring myself to tell them how I feel bcoz we literally live sooo freaking far away and with assignments pilled up, there's no time for long conversation :(
I started struggling from social anxiety since like 2021,and it has been getting worse. Now I'm really anxious around my family too, I can't hold conversations well, I'm always feeling left out and like I don't belong anywhere, sometimes even among my best friends. Maybe it's because I can't catch up with the current tends? Or cause I'm rather a shut in most of the time? But even small conversations are hard for me now.
I still suffer from it but I started taking anxiety medication and that’s really helped me, I still struggle talking to new people but it’s better than before. I also try not to think too much cuz when I think it just becomes worse and I feel like dying. I would suggest trying to get a doc appointment and talk about getting on some anxiety medication. Maybe even therapy, that’s also helped me just talking to someone, it helps clear out my head. This is just what has worked for me but you can also talk to your doctor and see what options they have for you. Remember it gets better, don’t give up trying there is always a new thing to see in life. (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Im diagnosed with social anxiety and a lot of times I find myself feeling trapped inside my house bc it feels overwhelming to go out. Its a horrible feeling esp when youre aware its just the anxiety talking so I rly try to drag myself out to show me that I can go out.
I uber to a park or a mall so I can convince myself to stay for a bit since I paid to go there and it would be a waste of money if I immediately run home (which is often what I feel like doing)
The anxiety and feelings of "otherness" doesnt go away but it def feels a lot better going to bed knowing I didnt let my anxiety fully isolate me.
So ya. Find some way to trick yourself to stay in the presence of other people. Like, you can only eat your favorite snack when youre in front of them or that you have to sit at a common space they frequent for 10 min a day. You dont have to talk. Just listen. Dont allow your anxiety physically isolate you bc your presence is the bridge that can connect others to you.
i used to have rly bad social anxiety (i used to cry every day bc of my failed social interactions) but time really does heal things. its taken me almost 8 years to learn how to hold an okay conversation with most people. i’ve gotten more used to talking with others and expressing myself, so that my anxiety is not as bad as before. i recommend to try going outside as much as u can, even for small chores like grocery shopping, because when i was in my room all the time with zero social interaction, i became dissociated from reality and i couldn't remember how to function normally in society anymore lol ;; the library’s a great place to start bc ppl leave u alone but u still get to be around others
and have some confidence in urself !! (≧∀≦) i don't even care if i don't fit in anymore bc ik im a bit weird and the stuff i like is probs strange to others ahahha, but it actually makes us cooler >:D once i became more confident in who i am, i never felt left out anymore bc i wld js be doing my own thing while others did theirs.
social anxiety can be so crippling but good luck. even if it’ll take more time to improve, it’s okay. dont be so hard on urself. it will get better.
I wanna read manga with similar art style of Duke Richard's Haven . The genra need not to be the same, I loved the art. Every character, side ones too were all well drawn. You guys got any?
Be it regrets, or something I must definitely do, or something I should avoid doing, well whichever. Feel free to share your thoughts! (๑ت๑)ﾉ
Phew where to start? 20’s is a roller coaster. Suddenly the world isn’t as clear anymore. Suddenly you’ve lost your sense of direction. Suddenly you’re old enough but still feel like a little kid exposed to the world. Suddenly it’s like everything is moving fast yet slow.
Suddenly it’s like you’re in the midst of people yet you’re alone. Suddenly you want to face the world yourself but you’re scared.
My advice to you is, it’s fine. Whatever plans you’ve had for yourself for a long time is going to get derailed, but remember, it’s fine. When you get lost, also remember, it’s fine. Don’t rush things, don’t panic, find something to ground yourself or connect to. Explore hobbies, it’s fine to pick up and drop as you go. Let yourself be more open minded, and when you find your way again, everything will definitely be better and clearer
Ok so i have 2 small jobs and i also study certain days. But i regret the bed rotting and doom scrolling i do during my free time. It required less brain and effort but I literally gave myself no time or room to explore a little, to be a little dangerous or adventurous.
I was and am a sucker for reckless ideas and adventure- since i was little i would do and find so many amazing things, places...
But i grew up...grew too comfortable in my comfort zone.
So basically- seize the day! I cant die knowing thats all my life is worth
Bad advice but free: Fuck around and find out
This is real asf
Try to have a schedule. It will become a habit eventually and it will help you a lot.
nah man I only just turned 20 but this relates so much
same here, idh any job and I don't have college atm since I'm preparing for a national exam which is in THREE WEEKS , but I wasted many months just bed rotting and scrolling unnecessarily the entire damm day like a maniac and now I'm facing the consequences whichh I well deserve
Can anyone recommend me some bl where it's like enemies to lovers, or something like where the boss falls for his secretary/coworker or well like uk where it isn't love at first side. Sometimes which takes time to build and ah as much as possible I would prefer bls which aren't THAT explicit
No Moral!!! MY CURRENT FAV READ!! YOU WON'T REGRET, TRUST!!
omg so true, it’s my favourite thing ever
Okayy let me give it a try ^^
No love zone